Inspirational story about what can be achieved

westernpromise

Oh sure. But less so as time goes by. They're a lot cuter and more engaging when they're four than when they're fourteen. And also less hassle; the worst a toddler can do is poo everywhere, which pales beside the havoc a teenager can cause.

I think teenagers and old people are made to become obnoxious by evolution, so you miss them less when they go.

SingleSue

economic wrote: »

Sorry to hear that. It must be quite tough to know for you and your sons the future will be limited given your disabilities.

There was a lot of guilt.....

Back to the topic in hand, youngest will not be listening to me, he is of the work hard, get savings behind him and the fun comes later, that also includes having girlfriends. He has a goal in mind and everything else can wait until he reaches that goal despite being reminded of what is in store for him every time he sees me.

Eldest has worked hard both at school, university and career wise but has tried to even the mix up a little and have some fun as he already needs to use a stick and knows a wheelchair is around the corner but also wants to have a steady career and income/savings sorted before it arrives.

Middle son is a take it as it comes sort of person.

PasturesNew

Yes she did it, but under an unusual set of circumstances.

Her apprenticeship was with a firm heavily involved in the housing industry, so she'd have been surrounded by lots of people interested in houses, mortgages, etc - and she'd have been surrounded by people who had done similar, had portfolios, were designers, were builders, etc. So she'll have spent her days surrounded by seeing what can be achieved - and been able to heuristically absorb all that information and start to ask "the right questions" - and be guided/aided in her choices and options perpetually.

Most people are surrounded by the news/newspapers continually telling you why it can't be done!

westernpromise

PasturesNew wrote: »

Yes she did it, but under an unusual set of circumstances.

Her apprenticeship was with a firm heavily involved in the housing industry, so she'd have been surrounded by lots of people interested in houses, mortgages, etc - and she'd have been surrounded by people who had done similar, had portfolios, were designers, were builders, etc. So she'll have spent her days surrounded by seeing what can be achieved - and been able to heuristically absorb all that information and start to ask "the right questions" - and be guided/aided in her choices and options perpetually.

Most people are surrounded by the news/newspapers continually telling you why it can't be done!

A bit like having good parents then. This is unfair on those who don't and she should be punished through the tax system for it. Other people deserve her house more than she does.

Sapphire

stator wrote: »

It is.
Speaking as someone who is no longer young, life sucks once you're 30+.
Your health starts going down hill, you can no longer play the sports you want to or take up new ones
You're stuck in a dead end job, your skills are out of date
You lose touch with all your friends. Either you have kids and your life is over or everyone else does and you no longer have anything in common.
And what have you got to look forward to? Nothing
It's all down hill. Your parents will probably die soon, then you will too

BAH HUMBUG

What a load of absolute tosh. Your life must be very miserable – though if you are ill, I apologise in advance.

Conversely, I think life starts after one's thirties for many and gets better as the years go by (as long as you are healthy), because you tend to be more stable and less governed by confusion brought about by hormones, etc.

My Pilates teacher, for example, must be in her fifties, yet she's more energetic and outgoing than most of the confused youth I've come across.

ukcarper

westernpromise wrote: »

Oh sure. But less so as time goes by. They're a lot cuter and more engaging when they're four than when they're fourteen. And also less hassle; the worst a toddler can do is poo everywhere, which pales beside the havoc a teenager can cause.

I think teenagers and old people are made to become obnoxious by evolution, so you miss them less when they go.

I’m afraid I don’t agree true children can give you problems but at the same time they can give immense pleasure. Also I don’t find all teenagers or old people obnoxious and generally most people I meet from both groups are fine.

bugslet

stator wrote: »

I wouldn't sacrifice my youth for the sake of owning a load of bricks and concrete. When she's 30 she'll probably wish she hadn't bought into her parents obsession with housing and had instead lived her life a bit more.

I ended up buying a house around 25 when my parents went bankrupt. Otherwise I probably wouldn't have at that point.

From 18 - 25, apart from 6 months working in an office, every job was physically hard and very long hours, so I didn't really 'live', however I never regretted either the work or buying a house.

I'm 53 and whilst I'm not about take up downhill ski-ing, I still get out, go hiking, dancing and gardening, and enjoy life. I've been twice last week , three times this week, I'm very happy.

I follow Blibble on the mortgage free wannabe board, him and his girlfriend are 23, both doing jobs a bit above minimum wage, yet they have managed to get a house and they are saving up for a wedding. Far more sensible than I was at that age:o

bugslet

ukcarper wrote: »

I’m afraid I don’t agree true children can give you problems but at the same time they can give immense pleasure. Also I don’t find all teenagers or old people obnoxious and generally most people I meet from both groups are fine.

I did take it as tongue in cheek;)

ukcarper

bugslet wrote: »

I did take it as tongue in cheek;)

I hope it was but I’m not sure , imagine going through life if you though by 30 all your best times were behind you.

economic

ukcarper wrote: »

I hope it was but I’m not sure , imagine going through life if you though by 30 all your best times were behind you.

You would spend all your money on fun and then complain at age 30 you cant afford a house.