Inspirational story about what can be achieved

Cakeguts

ViolaLass wrote: »

Selfish means that you're concerned with your pleasure and not concerned about others' feelings.

By that definition, saving for a house or spunking it all on phones is selfish either way. Why are you so cross about others' choices?

I think the problem is that in the media and on here there are is so much about young people not being able to afford to buy a house because they can't save a deposit and then it turns out that they have new cars on finance and the latest iphone.

The OP shows that it can be done in the right circumstances where saving is more important to the person than spending on car finance and the latest gadgets.

The choice is there for both the people who save to buy a house and the people who spend most of their income on new cars and the latest gadget. What would be nice though is for the people who want to spend their income on cars and the latest gadget to stop complaining about not being able to afford a house and blaming this on older generations who did save. The entitled generation feel that they should be able to have everything without putting in any effort to achieve it.

It is nice to hear of a young person who chose to work very hard and save hard to get what they wanted not blame others or complain that they can't get what they want.

stator

ukcarper wrote: »

You speak as if the youth is the only time you can enjoy yourself

It is.
Speaking as someone who is no longer young, life sucks once you're 30+.
Your health starts going down hill, you can no longer play the sports you want to or take up new ones
You're stuck in a dead end job, your skills are out of date
You lose touch with all your friends. Either you have kids and your life is over or everyone else does and you no longer have anything in common.
And what have you got to look forward to? Nothing
It's all down hill. Your parents will probably die soon, then you will too

BAH HUMBUG

ukcarper

stator wrote: »

It is.
Speaking as someone who is no longer young, life sucks once you're 30+.
Your health starts going down hill, you can no longer play the sports you want to or take up new ones
You're stuck in a dead end job, your skills are out of date
You lose touch with all your friends. Either you have kids and your life is over or everyone else does and you no longer have anything in common.
And what have you got to look forward to? Nothing
It's all down hill. Your parents will probably die soon, then you will too

BAH HUMBUG

Well I’m along way past 30 and am still enjoying myself am still in contact with many of my friends. I’m certainly glad I’m not you if that’s how you feel.

economic

stator wrote: »

It is.
Speaking as someone who is no longer young, life sucks once you're 30+.
Your health starts going down hill, you can no longer play the sports you want to or take up new ones
You're stuck in a dead end job, your skills are out of date
You lose touch with all your friends. Either you have kids and your life is over or everyone else does and you no longer have anything in common.
And what have you got to look forward to? Nothing
It's all down hill. Your parents will probably die soon, then you will too

BAH HUMBUG

Whilst there is a lot of truth in what you say (personally I think the cut off age is closer to 35 then 30), one can still enjoy life perhaps even more so as likely you would have enough money to do many things like holidays and eating out etc.

SingleSue

ukcarper wrote: »

You speak as if the youth is the only time you can enjoy yourself, plenty of merit in sacrificing earlier to make your life better later on. Of course it’s up to the individual what they do but it is no good moaning in later life if you can’t afford to buy.

I was really looking forward to when the boys grew up and became adults. I had so many plans to travel and go on adventures.....instead I have a wheelchair and not enough health to do so (I'm 47 by the way so not exactly old!)

I've told the boys to seize life now rather than put it off, to go and have some fun and discover new places, especially bearing in mind they have the same genetic disability as me (unfortunately discovered with the diagnosis of eldest son and after all of them had been born).

ukcarper

economic wrote: »

Whilst there is a lot of truth in what you say (personally I think the cut off age is closer to 35 then 30), one can still enjoy life perhaps even more so as likely you would have enough money to do many things like holidays and eating out etc.

What a couple of miserable people.

ukcarper

SingleSue wrote: »

I was really looking forward to when the boys grew up and became adults. I had so many plans to travel and go on adventures.....instead I have a wheelchair and not enough health to do so (I'm 47 by the way so not exactly old!)

I've told the boys to seize life now rather than put it off, to go and have some fun and discover new places, especially bearing in mind they have the same genetic disability as me (unfortunately discovered with the diagnosis of eldest son and after all of them had been born).

That’s very unfortunate and in your position I would have told my kids to do the same. But for most people it is possible to have an active life well after 30, OK you might have chance your hobbies or lower your expectations but there are plenty of benefits to being older.

economic

SingleSue wrote: »

I was really looking forward to when the boys grew up and became adults. I had so many plans to travel and go on adventures.....instead I have a wheelchair and not enough health to do so (I'm 47 by the way so not exactly old!)

I've told the boys to seize life now rather than put it off, to go and have some fun and discover new places, especially bearing in mind they have the same genetic disability as me (unfortunately discovered with the diagnosis of eldest son and after all of them had been born).

Sorry to hear that. It must be quite tough to know for you and your sons the future will be limited given your disabilities.

westernpromise

stator wrote: »

It is.
Speaking as someone who is no longer young, life sucks once you're 30+.
Your health starts going down hill, you can no longer play the sports you want to or take up new ones
You're stuck in a dead end job, your skills are out of date
You lose touch with all your friends. Either you have kids and your life is over or everyone else does and you no longer have anything in common.
And what have you got to look forward to? Nothing
It's all down hill. Your parents will probably die soon, then you will too

BAH HUMBUG

It gets worse. You become the sandwich generation, where your entire life and income are devoted to your children and to your ageing parents leaving basically nothing for yourself. This I think why people say they are happiest in their sixties - these two factors are usually no longer in play.

ukcarper

westernpromise wrote: »

It gets worse. You become the sandwich generation, where your entire life and income are devoted to your children and to your ageing parents leaving basically nothing for yourself. This I think why people say they are happiest in their sixties - these two factors are usually no longer in play.

You might find it strange but your children give you some of the most pleasurable times.