Removing my Ex

K.A.P

Regarding evidence he has said it 3 times in emails to my friend who is acting on my behalf, the one who is a solicitor

The thing is as well he keeps changing his demands, he also keeps saying he wants to keep his "investment"

He was asked 2 months ago to nominate a solicitor but refuses,he wants to represent himself. He has told me to go to court a few times and threatened that if i do take him to court he will make accusations against me

The allegations are unfounded but still not nice, the allocations are people related not criminal ie i will tell the children's dad bla bla

K.A.P

Yes, they have said as it is a pub that is classed as a place for adults, all i can do is complain to the brewery if i am not happy as the licence may not be in his name it may be in his wives

K.A.P

My daughter is over the age of 18 now, the offences were going on when she was 11 until she spoke at 13

FBaby

So really you both want control over each other's life despite the fact that you (and probably he) claims you want to escape him.

He clearly believes that the moment he gives you want you want (the house in your name only), you're going to go and tell everyone his history to ruin his life. So you are prepared to ruin his life and he is prepared to ruin yours.

Unfortunately, it might come down to only two outcomes, you take him to court to force the sell, or you accept the situation for a few more years and try again when he feels less threatened.

K.A.P

I do want to get rid of him, i also want to know he won't try and interfere in our lives in the future. I have no intention of doing anything to him or his family but i also want to know he wont do anything to mine

it has been 7 years already, i have done nothing to him in that time

K.A.P

The reason i have decided to sort the house now is i am for the first time in a financial position to do so

Comms69

If there’s a s.45 in place you are limited on what you can say anyway.

The non-disclosure doesn’t affect you.

FBaby

The reason i have decided to sort the house now is i am for the first time in a financial position to do so

So you were happy for him to remain on the deeds/mortgage when it suited you but now that it doesn't, you want to dictate that he sells what is indeed, an investment for him.

I do understand why you would be desperate to get him off and have the house under your name only, but he doesn't have to oblige just because it's what you want now.

K.A.P

I can see why you would THAT FBaby but its not easy going through that type of situation and emotionally it is very stressful, my youngest is now 18 and i feel it is the right time for my family

He has not requested that the house be sold before, nor has he contributed to the household or mortgage for the last 7 years

We didnt have a tenancy agreement so he cannot claim rent for the time i have been here. I put down all of the deposit/equity so that money is morally mine

He only had financial input into the house for 3 years

He has also been in prison for some of that time, understandable i did not want to speak to him or have contact with him

Nor does my daughter, i have also needed to get her to a position where she is ready for us to deal with him and bring that back into our lives

Socajam

Speaking from personal experience if he is entitled to £33,000.00, give him what is his.
Ask yourself irrespective of what he has done, would you like someone to short change you if you were entitled to a certain sum of money.
In the end the only people who will win will be the lawyers. Why give them more money.
I went through something like this in 1989, when interest rate was at15%. I had to remortgage from £39,000.00 to £60,000.00. Trust me it was extremely hard, but I finally got there.
Paid off my house 3 years ago and he is a lot worse off, than I am now.
If I had listened to friends and kept him on the mortgage, I would have been in a worse situation at this time.
Get rid of the problem and move on.