How to evict ex boyfriend who refuses to leave house?

G_M

Nearly 2 hours since you posted.

You've had all the advice you need. Let's hope you've taken it on board and acted - let us know.

To sum up

* no, he has no rights
* no, there is nothing legally you need to do to evict him (eg court order not needed)
* yes, you can legally evict him, just by telling him to leave
* yes, if he refuses to leave, you can call the police to enforce eviction
* unffortunately, the police may be reluctant to get involved in a 'family' matter. Don't take 'no' for an answer from them.
* Yes, you can use 'reasonable force' to evict
* and yes, if there is a 'breach of the peace' ie he resists your request, and/or your reasonable force, that is a criminal offence and should be reported to the police
* and yes, if you suspect there may be a 'breach of the peace' in the future ie when you ask him to leave/use 'reasonable force', ask the police to attend to prevent that B of the P.
* yes, in addition to all the above, an 'assault' should be reported to the police - note that 'asssault' does not have to involve anything violent, just the threat of violence ie anything tht puts you in fear of violence
* yes you should change the locks as soon as he is outside. Buying a new lock late on new years eve will be difficult, so
- either lock the door from inside and leave the key in the lock overnight (and change lock tomorrow) or
- put the latch on (if there s one) to prevent re-entry or
- get an emergency locksmith

[Deleted User]

Hmmm, from personal experience, in a similar situation, I was legally advised NOT to change the locks as it would give the other party leverage in their side of things e.g. the more 'bad' things I did the more favourable it would be to them - if he tries to take things further.
:mad:


He, and his solicitor, made my life extremely difficult for a while.


Trust your instincts.


I'm posting this because you should have a mix of information given to you, listen to all and then make your own informed decisions.

[Deleted User]

Your father sounds fairly savvy, he may have a cylinder barrel lying around (I know I have lolol). It may be difficult to do, but give him a ring.

Give Women's Aid a ring after the New Year, they will advise you on how to keep yourself safe and what violent/abusive relationships are.

I hope you are ok, please let us know.

sevenhills

dimbo61 wrote: »

If you watch a couple of YouTube videos on how to change the barrel on the front door.
You can pick up a new barrel from B and Q or other good locksmiths
Homebase, wicks, Wilkinson or order on eBay.
Time to talk to Mum and Dad.
Deadbeat EX needs to move out asap

If you are on a tight budget, you may be able to change the locks around, front to back visa versa.

NeilCr

I’m sorry

I genuinely can’t get my head around the comments about leaving reporting it to the police/contacting the local DV support until after the New Year

Do it now!

Mojisola

Catsacor wrote: »

Hmmm, from personal experience, in a similar situation, I was legally advised NOT to change the locks as it would give the other party leverage in their side of things e.g. the more 'bad' things I did the more favourable it would be to them - if he tries to take things further.

He, and his solicitor, made my life extremely difficult for a while.

A non-contributing live-in partner has absolutely no rights apart from collecting belongings.

Had your ex been paying towards the mortgage or house improvements? That would have given him some leverage.

pinklady21

Where are your parents? Call them NOW and get them to come over for New Year. With luck that will keep you safe, and if the ex is silly enough to become violent again, this will be witnessed. Sorry about the situation you find yourself in, and I hope it is resolved soon. But you must act NOW for your own safety.

Margot123

You effectively have an abusive stranger in your home, who has physically assaulted you.
Would you put up with the situation if they were some random stranger? No, you would ring the Police immediately.

Call them now,stressing the assaults and that you are in immediate danger. They will 'politely ask' him to go, leaving his keys behind. Failing that he will be arrested, and then probably de-arrested once in their car and away from you.
They will also make arrangements for an emergency locksmith to change your locks in case he has other keys.

Don't assume they are too busy. They are always busy, but never too busy to help someone in this sort of situation, even at midnight on NYE.

-taff

You've only been there a couple of weeks, he has no rights over the house.
Call the police.

simondm

You could also temporarily swap locks with a friend or family member (if length is compatible, doesn't necessarily have to be exact). As long as the ex doesn't know who you've swapped with this would be fine until you can pick up a new lock on Tuesday and return the borrowed lock.