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masonsmum

Glad to hear your daughter in law is getting better. My mum had a massive brain aneurysm that burst 2 years ago and afterwards she took a stroke. She also lost her speech and had problems with mobility.


It has been a long road to recovery but she is now almost back to normal, her speech and language therapist was fantastic and we also had a lot of help from Headway (the brain injury charity) worth giving them a call as they are on hand with excellent advice, activities and exercise and can also help with benefit claims.


Hope she makes a full recovery.

Bean83

Glad to hear she is on the road to recovery.

With regards to breastfeeding, could she express milk for the baby? If there was a way of storing it at the hospital, your son could then take batches of it home after every visit and feed it to baby via a bottle. Breast milk can be kept at room temp for 4 hours, in the fridge for 4 days, and in the freezer for 4 weeks. If she could freeze batches of it he could take it home in a freezer bag and defrost as and when needed. I would recommend borrowing/hiring a hospital grade breast pump to make the job a lot quicker!!!

haras_nosirrah

with the breast feeding the answer may be for mum to pump and send dad home with milk for baby and feed with baby is with her. I hope things continue to improve

DevilsAdvocate1

mrseyes wrote: »

Thank you so much for your support, it did really helped.

My sons girlfriend's is getting slowly better now, her feeding tube is out and that she can eat now, she can talk few words at a time and you can hear her now (not whispering), she can feel her right side and wiggles her toes. She can also squeeze her rand hand when asked to do. Physiotherapist has planned out routine for her and speech therapist attends to her too.

The problem is that when baby is delivered in 10 weeks we have been told that they cant keep baby in the hospital but she would like to breast feed as much possible so don't know what we going to do.

Even if we take baby in out of hospital its 40 miles journey for my son.

But thanked god she is with us and improving day by day.

Thank you so much for your support.

If your son's girlfriend wants to breastfeed can I suggest that you ring the NCT breastfeeding line on 0300 330 0771

They have some very knowledgeable breastfeeding counsellors who will have come across similar situations before and may be able to advise on how to approach the hospital in order to enable this to happen.

A good friend had her twin babies 10 weeks early and had to leave them in the hospital when she went home. She found it really helpful breastfeeding as she said it was the one thing she could do for her baby that the lovely nursing staff could not do.

Although the situation is the opposite here, it might help your son's girlfriend feel that the baby is hers if she can do this, even if its not all the time.

olgadapolga

DevilsAdvocate1 wrote: »

If your son's girlfriend wants to breastfeed can I suggest that you ring the NCT breastfeeding line on 0300 330 0771

They have some very knowledgeable breastfeeding counsellors who will have come across similar situations before and may be able to advise on how to approach the hospital in order to enable this to happen.

I'd second this. The NCT are really good at helping people to deal with the NHS. You could also try talking to PALS or the maternity unit to see what they can suggest. Thinking about it, the hospital should have a dedicated breastfeeding support - often a midwife, so it might be worth chatting with her/him as well.

sazdes

I would definitely double check regarding letting the baby stay in the hospital with her, every hospital I've worked at in similar circumstances have gone out of their way to borrow cots from maternity to allow mum and baby to stay together on the ward (ideally side room but with current pressures this may be less easy to arrange). Best wishes, age is on her side in terms of better chance of a good recovery

Mrs_Imp

If she can get the right support, then breastfeeding may be possible.
http://theleakyboob.com/2012/04/breastfeeding-the-icu-support-and-facebook-support-that-keeps-on-giving/
You might want to try contacting NCT and LLL. She may have to be quite firm with her medical team about her desire to BF.
I hope it all goes well for her

mrseyes

Update on my daughter in law. In 2 weeks she is going coming home, finally will be discharged from the hospital after 9 months of rehab following rupture of AVM in the brain. She will need more surgery to completely remove the rest of AVM. But she has been told its going to be non invasive surgery. She has limited use of her right hand and right leg but manages to walk with stick indoors & wheel chair for outside. Hope it will get better. She can talk but need to sort her vocal cord out. Baby Harry is 6 months old and just stared on solid food this week and soon will start crawling.

BrassicWoman

Thank you for the update. good news about baby!

thorsoak

This is wonderful news - but at the same time you all realise what an uphill path you are all on - good luck - please let us know how things progress - and if you need support/help - you know where to find us xxxx