our kids should not be the most important

seven-day-weekend

I have always said this. Our children, of course we love them and bring them up to the best of our ability, will, if we have done it right, go off and live their own lives after a comparatively short time.

Whereas the person we created that stable family with, will still be there.

My husband and I were a couple for nearly ten years before our son came along. After twenty-four years, we became a couple again. We have been married for 46 years.

It's important to be friend, lovers and partners, not just mum and dad.

Pixie5740

motorguy wrote: »

Ah the "snowflake generation"

All starting to grow up, and beginning to realise the world doesnt actually owe them a living and that the world doesnt revolve around them.

D- must try harder

esuhl

unholyangel wrote: »

Under the circumstances in OP's case though, it would likely fall under the fair dealing exception.

Its not as if OP has posted it as a journalist being paid to write a story or a blogger receiving ad revenue or is attempting to pass it off as their own - not only have they accredited it, but they've linked to it also and have posted specifically to discuss/highlight that piece itself rather than referencing it as part of their own article.

The link you've supplied clearly says that a "fair dealing exception" only allows the copying of LIMITED ABSTRACTS, and only for NON-COMMERCIAL RESEARCH or PRIVATE STUDY, neither of which is the case here.

Gloomendoom wrote: »

Utter nonsense. The OP gave the source.

It sounds like a lot of people here are breaking the law the without even realising it.

thorsoak

Personally, I would say that the relationship between the parents is the most important - from this flow the dynamics of the family. Then, the importance of any one person in the family would change, depending upon what is happening in the family, to any person at any time.

There is a lesson which can sometimes be hard to learn - that is the difference between WANT and NEED. Children need to learn this as soon as possible, as do parents quite often.

Linton

In my view there is no "most important person" in an effective family. Some members may be more powerful, wiser, have greater needs etc. None of this make them more important. A family is created by and for all its members.

The most important person in a company isnt the CEO. Any CEO who believes that they are and acts accordingly will have problems. The most important person in a class room isnt the teacher - without the children the teacher would be out of work.

Fireflyaway

Tabbytabitha wrote: »

If your husband needed to work to provide food for his family (a situation that used to exist here and exists in many other countries) then feeding him would be not only the priority but a necessity.

Yes this is true! It would be different again if I were a single parent or had lots and lots of kids. Would be different if we lived in a hostile climate or 300 years ago. Its interesting. Its still about priorities rather than importance though.

I think, no matter what the variables, kids should respect parents and be grateful, not feel entitled. Parents also need to implement boundaries and not be ruled by the kids. There is too much lazy and weak parenting going on.