Gross misconduct help

Murielson

Totally disagree with coming clean as will do no one any good IMO.

Sit tight but think about what you would do if the matter comes to light and plan accordingly. Be prepared to offer an honest explanation if required but don't open the door if no one is actually knocking on it and asking the awkward question.

Senseicads

Murielson wrote: »

Totally disagree with coming clean as will do no one any good IMO.

Sit tight but think about what you would do if the matter comes to light and plan accordingly. Be prepared to offer an honest explanation if required but don't open the door if no one is actually knocking on it and asking the awkward question.

I agree with this, I'd have told the truth from the start...actually I wouldn't have stolen the money in the first place, but failing that the best course would have been to tell the truth up front. Now that you are in this situation the best you can do is wait and see if anything is said. If it is, you just have to admit it all, and say you didn't tell them any of it because you were dumb and horribly embarrassed by the stupid criminal actions you had done and that you hope that you have shown over your career with them that you have turned over a new leaf and learnt your lesson etc. Chances are though that your old area manager won't ever say anything and you won't have to deal with it.

FBaby

Your new employer could have asked for a reference, they chose not to. That's because they were happy to go with their judgement and it has paid of as it seems they are happy with your performance, so even if she said something, it is more likely that they would ignore it and judge you on what they've seen of you.

As for her saying something, who knows, but you can't control whether she would or not. I too think that if she wanted to do so because she felt it was her duty to tell them, she would have done so, but if she has half a brain, she would realise that you might have told them and therefore she would be making a fool of herself.

Just make sure that you don't ever annoy her in any way if you come across her again!

motorguy

Ronaldo_Mconaldo wrote: »

All it will take is for your old boss to come out with a comment like “watch your handbag round that one” or “just don’t leave her in charge of the money” and you’ll be answering some awkward questions. Best to come clean with your current employers and tell them that you left because you were fired because you were a thief. They’ll appreciate your eventual honesty, leave out all the BS about mental health and not getting on with your boss, nobody cares about that.

Good luck.

Really bad idea, they wont appreciate the honesty, and the O/P will be out of another job.

Personally, i'd sit tight, say nothing and cross your fingers it never comes to light.

lpd222

I really feel for you OP.
I think you've learnt a valuable lesson & have put it behind you.

If I was your employer of the last 3 years & you'd been a good employee with an impeccable record I wouldn't be listening to the gossip of a clearly 'vindictive random woman from next door'.

If you've proved yourself to your current employer then the work you've carried out over the last 3 years will be far more important than to them a 'mishap' that happened over 3 years ago.

I hope it works out for you xx