Possessions of deceased

Yorkshireman99

Jenniefour wrote: »

What possessions are you talking about? I do hope this isn't about clothes and small personal items. I would be asking myself what would my brother have wanted if he had known he was going to die/had known the implications of not making a will.

I think this is a situation where what's legally who's needs to take second place to the fact that she was his partner and she was the person he chose to live with. Trying to strip her of any possessions of the late brother's which were in their home just because it's legal is, IMHO, cruel and disrespectful of their relationship, regardless of people's opinions of her. Has this got past the point where she may have been very happy to respond to polite requests for items of sentimental value? If not, a sensitive and respectful conversation might lead to some resolution.

I take your point but the impression I have is that the GF is being totally unreasonable. Even allowing for her grief if there are valuables she cannot justify refusing to cooperate.

Yorkshireman99

Margot123 wrote: »

They are not taking the easy way out. They are acting within the Law, and will always encourage an amicable resolution before even considering any claims over rights of possession.
It is more likely they will become involved if the OP goes round to see the partner and ends up causing even more distress.

From what has been said they ARE taking the easy way out. At the very least they should hear both sides of the story IF there are valuables involved. I have heard too many instances of people taking advantage of such situations

Keep_pedalling

Yorkshireman99 wrote: »

I take your point but the impression I have is that the GF is being totally unreasonable. Even allowing for her grief if there are valuables she cannot justify refusing to cooperate.

We have no idea how this was put to her, but if the request was not handled with some respect and understanding, I can understand why she just wont hand over his stuff. I suspect much of this is down to how the relationships stood after the marital breakup, and emotions are overriding common sense.

Margot123

I think the OP's emoji on the first comment shows how tensions are running high.

Jenniefour

Yorkshireman99 wrote: »

Even allowing for her grief if there are valuables she cannot justify refusing to cooperate.

YM, I agree that items of significant value are part of the estate. I read the first post differently - and it might be helpful for OP to at least give some indication of what the items in dispute are.

chesky

The OP says the new partner was living with her brother but doesn't mention anything about the arrangement - were they renting, is she having to move out, poor woman.

Margot123

Another question to add to the list: how old are the children? Some people still refer to 'children' when they are in their 40s and beyond.

kellit35

Children are 9 and 10

dresdendave

Viewing the situation from a common sense position rather than the letter of the law, I think you need to clarify what you mean by possessions. If, for example, he has military medals that originally belonged to his grandfather or sentimental items he inherited from his parents, then I can understand you wanting them to be kept in the family.


If however you want to strip his house of white goods, TV and furniture etc, this would seem extremely callous and an apalling way to treat a woman grieving over the loss of her partner.


A bit more detail is required if you want any further advice.

kellit35

I want something and so do his children to remember there daddy and my brother a price if clothing anything.