Difficulties in new role

Sarastro

I think you're handling this in the right way. Cool, calm and documented.

getmore4less

You mention loads of projects.

Who are the main stakeholders for these projects?

Don't they have meetings and project plans with timescales for deliverable from you and to you?

One counter approach to being excluded is to widen the cc: list to people that have an interest, like the bosses and other team/project people interested in the time line.

sadkipper

Just a quick update. Unfortunately my dad died last week so I have not been in work full time. My colleague has chosen this time to increase her poor behaviour towards me but luckily managed to provide me with 2 more bits of evidence that showed what she was doing very clearly. This included an email chain where she deliberately took me out despite being told I needed to be in copy. My boss is being very supportive and has had an initial discussion with her boss. Obviously my focus right now is on supporting my mum but the added stress of a thoroughly unpleasant work colleague has not been helpful. I am out all next week to travel to the funeral but will be working remotely so will try to avoid any additional stress.

I am obviously very stressed and sad at the moment so am trying not make any decisions but I simply don’t see how this can be resolved in a way that means we could continue to work together. Ironically I have been working with some other teams and have really enjoyed the work so I know this is a job I would love and could do well. Feedback from these other colleagues has been very positive which has been good and also highlights how personal her behaviour is towards me.

Thank you for all the replies, I appreciate them.

Kynthia

Sorry for your loss. I hope things improve with your colleague or that things are done so that you don't need to work with her at all. Just contine to keep your complaints factual and non-enotional so that noone can feel it's personal.

StevenB12

First of all, sorry for your loss

As for the job, I've been in a similar situation before. When I was at my old work place I started out in the general engineering dept, which was sort of the intermediate part of the company, wasn't the bottom but was just as far from the top, I came into this job with a years experience behind me, as soon as I got there, a fellow co worker acted the exact same way yours is doing. He would purposely change drawing plans so I would end up doing jobs wrong, he would hide tools etc which delayed the job, basically very petty and childish things. This went on for a good few months, I made sort of tentative complaints, didn't want to cause trouble etc but I had hinted to the boss that it had to change.

Basically from came of it in the end, he apparently felt threatened by me being there as he thought of himself as the best of the best in that area and thought that me being there would change that, you mentioned that what you do is a very specialized role, is that something your co-worker could show jealousy to and be acting out the way she is? If the company waited 3 months for you then she will know that you are important to that company even though you are new, she may feel as though she was at the top of the class and now she's not?

It's often a strange one to call as these things more often than not just happens for no reason what so ever that is obvious anyway. With you telling your boss it's out there, the only thing I will touch upon is if you got the feeling he KNEW there was something, but waited for you to come to him, that's not always the best attitude to have, managers in my opinion, good one's anyway, deal with the problem as it arises, not when it becomes a bigger problem and waiting to be told about it.

Keep us updated on what happens.