House and separation advice

andu_2

Hi
I'm sorry to this is the wrong place to post. I'm not sure where else I can get any advice.
Any way. I got married in May 2016. I previously had my own house (rented) and lived there with my 2 children with expectations that my new husband would live with us afterwards and give up his flat.
So the unexpected happened and I found my sister dead a day after the wedding. As you can imagine my life changed.(I lived next door to her too and we were very close)
So I moved back to my mum and dad's as I couldnt bear living there. In the meantime my grandads house had been empty. He had died 7 month previous. And after a long family battle I(thats another story)managed to get a mortgage (in my own name) and my mum gifted me75% of the property with intentions to remortgae and pay her some back as I was due for a promotion. I also did a will to say that if anything happened to me then that was the situation. My husband never ended up living with us and still resides at his flat.To be honest he never did anything. And despite me trying he fekr i had changed and chise not to suooort me through the next days.The most he has done is arrange for people he knew to renovate the house (all paid by me and I have proof). He doesnt and has never oaid anh child support and I have never asked. For any of you thinking, it was probably down to me being so independent and thinking I didn't need it. Plus he had previous children and his ex demanded money constantly so I always knew I wouldn't ever allow myself to be in that rut.
He has chosen to stay at the flat as he finds it easier for him. Without going into too much details aboit our relationship, I am really worried.
He said last week that he could claim half my house even though he's never lived here. He threatened that he would stop me getting a remortgage in the next month to pay back my mum some money.
I know the way forward is separation and divorce but I'm so worried that my grandads House, my mind inheritance, my hard work will be at risk to him who has never helped or supported us.
He said beca use we are now married then everything is his. Please can someone help x

badmemory

See a solicitor start divorce procedings & no he ins't entitled to 50%. He would need something like 5 years of actual marriage, which yours does not even appear to be. First thing Monday morning get legal advise. If he by any miracle gets half your house, you get half his pension. You need a solicitor to put the bully back in his box!

krlyr

andu wrote: »

He said last week that he could claim half my house even though he's never lived here. He threatened that he would stop me getting a remortgage in the next month to pay back my mum some money.
I know the way forward is separation and divorce but I'm so worried that my grandads House, my mind inheritance, my hard work will be at risk to him who has never helped or supported us.
He said beca use we are now married then everything is his. Please can someone help x

You can likely find a solicitor to give half an hour's free advice to start, but even paying is going to be worth it to save your property & hard work. Read up on short marriages - think it's 2 years, and the general consensus is to return both parties to the financial position they were in prior to marraige.

thebillet

If you do go to a solicitor take with you two printed sheets including all your details, age name, address, date of marriage, name of husband etc. It saves using valuable time in the meeting when the solicitor will be asking those questions.

andu_2

Thank you so much for your replies. I really appreciate it. I will see.my solicitor as soon as I can.