Maintenance Question.

SarahShattered

Hi all.
Not been here for a while, and not sure if I'm in the right place.

My husband & I split up 5 years ago, but haven't yet divorced. We have 3 children. 2 are under 18. He pays a total of £200 per month maintenance. This is a private agreement we worked out between us. He doesn't contribute in any other way to the children's upkeep or to bills or anything like that. And neither have I asked him to.
He has our youngest every other weekend. And occasionally for a week in the school holidays. He has begun asking for £25 per week back if he has our youngest for a holiday.
He works and earns approximately £18k. He is single & has no other children.

Does anyone know roughly what I should expect from him?

I understand the CSA is no longer a thing. But is there a similar organisation I can approach for help/advice?

TIA x

Topcat1982

Yes you can use the CMS calculator as a guide to what he should be paying

He's correct that the number of nights he has them per year is relevant

pmlindyloo

Here's the link:

https://www.gov.uk/calculate-your-child-maintenance

Will be difficult to estimate since he only has one child staying overnight.

Have worked it out for two children it would be £47 per week (but do check)

To be honest, £200 a month sounds about right.

But, since this is a private arrangement then you can be flexible about what you do.

£18000pa is not a lot if he is paying for accommodation, food, bills etc.

Only you know his and your circumstances. If he is struggling and you are receiving CB and CTC and have a good income then, IMHO, to give him £25 to ensure your child has a good holiday with his dad seems reasonable.

Why do you think he is being unreasonable?

SarahShattered

Thanks for the responses. That's really useful. I wasn't really sure what I was looking for.
With regards to my thinking he's being unreasonable... I suppose there's a whole backstory that I haven't gone into. He sees himself as a victim and always has. I wanted to get a clearer understanding of what he'd 'legally' be expected to pay. If what he was paying was appropriate or not. I wanted to know if I was way off the mark or if he was.
Thanks again. I've used the calculator, and although as has been said it's difficult to calculate when he only sees one child. But nonetheless, he's a little short of the maintenance rate set by csa/cms?

Comms69

SarahShattered wrote: »

Thanks for the responses. That's really useful. I wasn't really sure what I was looking for.
With regards to my thinking he's being unreasonable... I suppose there's a whole backstory that I haven't gone into. - is it in any way relevant to the children? He sees himself as a victim and always has. I wanted to get a clearer understanding of what he'd 'legally' be expected to pay. If what he was paying was appropriate or not. I wanted to know if I was way off the mark or if he was.
Thanks again. I've used the calculator, and although as has been said it's difficult to calculate when he only sees one child. But nonetheless, he's a little short of the maintenance rate set by csa/cms?

Is it more than you'd get using 'collect and pay'?

poppy12345

SarahShattered wrote: »

Thanks for the responses. That's really useful. I wasn't really sure what I was looking for.
With regards to my thinking he's being unreasonable... I suppose there's a whole backstory that I haven't gone into. He sees himself as a victim and always has. I wanted to get a clearer understanding of what he'd 'legally' be expected to pay. If what he was paying was appropriate or not. I wanted to know if I was way off the mark or if he was.
Thanks again. I've used the calculator, and although as has been said it's difficult to calculate when he only sees one child. But nonetheless, he's a little short of the maintenance rate set by csa/cms?

I think you should be happy that he pays that amount each month. A lot of people get nothing and would be happy with just half that amount.

Darksparkle

Works out about £228-£238 per month based on an estimate of £18,000 and seeing children less than once a week. But then if he’s paying into a pension that would need factored in.

Personally I don’t think asking to reduce it the odd week he has the child during the holidays is unreasonable especially being on a fairly low income.