Tracing accounts

JayJay100

I've been polite all of the way through, and I know emotions must be running high; I'm struggling with an unexpected sense of grief myself, together with a strange affinity for having sisters.

When I first received the snotty e-mail, I explained that it wasn't me, and I hadn't done anything along official lines, although I was within my rights to do so; perhaps not the best thing to say, but by that point, they'd really got my back up. When I was told about the caveat, the e-mail was very brief, but completely different in tone. I'm torn, because part of me thinks I should be grateful that I was remembered at all, and anything is a bonus; but part of me thinks what right do they have to try and rip me off. I could understand if I was making a claim against the properties, but I'm not.

Yorkshireman99

JayJay100 wrote: »

I've been polite all of the way through, and I know emotions must be running high; I'm struggling with an unexpected sense of grief myself, together with a strange affinity for having sisters.

When I first received the snotty e-mail, I explained that it wasn't me, and I hadn't done anything along official lines, although I was within my rights to do so; perhaps not the best thing to say, but by that point, they'd really got my back up. When I was told about the caveat, the e-mail was very brief, but completely different in tone. I'm torn, because part of me thinks I should be grateful that I was remembered at all, and anything is a bonus; but part of me thinks what right do they have to try and rip me off. I could understand if I was making a claim against the properties, but I'm not.

Noted. I did not mean to suggest you had been impolite! It is a bad situation to be in. Nevertheless communication is likely to be the best way forward.

JayJay100

No, you didn't suggest I'd been impolite at all! I really didn't take it that way. I just meant that I didn't reply in kind to the snotty e-mail, even though I may have really wanted to!

Yorkshireman99

JayJay100 wrote: »

No, you didn't suggest I'd been impolite at all! I really didn't take it that way. I just meant that I didn't reply in kind to the snotty e-mail, even though I may have really wanted to!

Thank you. Understood about not replying in kind. As residuary beneficiary you are entitled to see the estate accounts and the bank statement is not sufficient as you are entitled to all the assets not specificly left to anyone else. Th executors may not know this so you could let them know that once they have probate they will have to show you all the detail of the estate assets and debts. Sorry I can suggest anything else except keep an eye on the list of probates issued so you can get a copy of the will as soon as possible.

JayJay100

Thank you again.

I think I may have had a tiny breakthrough. I received an e-mail from the younger sister, saying that they were raising a warning, and giving me the details of their solicitor: bit of a downer there, as it's the one that I would have liked to use. The thing that struck me the most was that the tone was much softer, and she even asked how I was, in an open-ended question. It's always possible that this is just her style, but it was nice to see, all the same.

I will keep an eye on the list of probates issued, as you suggest. Than you again for all of your advice; it is appreciated.

Yorkshireman99

JayJay100 wrote: »

Thank you again.

I think I may have had a tiny breakthrough. I received an e-mail from the younger sister, saying that they were raising a warning, and giving me the details of their solicitor: bit of a downer there, as it's the one that I would have liked to use. The thing that struck me the most was that the tone was much softer, and she even asked how I was, in an open-ended question. It's always possible that this is just her style, but it was nice to see, all the same.

I will keep an eye on the list of probates issued, as you suggest. Than you again for all of your advice; it is appreciated.

You are most welcome. Apply some basic negotiating tactics. Cultivate her and see if that helps. It cant do any harm.