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camz2017

Virtually that entire article did not ring home with me (but some did), so I guess I am not a typical product. I never bury my feelings, generally I am emotionally open, nor do I avoid conflict I am often the strongest person in the room to challenge somebody where I feel necessary... I seek no approval from anyone, really could not care less about others, I do what I do for me.

I don't think anyone would describe me as oversensitive to the needs of others, possibly the opposite. I try to be a perfectionist, for myself, I want to be the best for me, nobody else. I definitely do not have low self esteem...

I wouldn't say I do anything compulsively, I choose to do what I do. There is a clear difference. I can moan about my routine at times but lets be clear I set it up this way, and I love the way my life is. I enjoy being on the go all of the time it gives me a thrill.

I do think my childhood made me a much harder person on the outside... I am very happy to go at things on my own, which I am sure has meant in the past I have just coldly walked away from people who madly loved me. I think had I not seen my parents have such a bad relationship, I would want a partner to settle down with much more. My childhood makes me seem like I lack emotions, or at least multiple partners have now said I don't feel emotions to the same level as other humans... Some say I've got sociopathic tendencies. I disagree, I think I try to protect myself too much, as in I take a long time to grow an attachment or trust someone, and just appear cold sometimes.

camz2017

The attitude that failure is unacceptable is why you have such trouble when you slip up - you've already "failed" by buying something you shouldn't have, so you're a failure, so you might as well keep failing and overspending. If you accept that failure is not only perfectly normal, but an important part of developing as a person. Think about who you'd be if you haven't failed a year at uni, and you'll see that you're a better person for failing than you would have been if you'd succeeded without trying.

I really loved this, wow, you hit the nail on the head. 100% this sums it up better than even I could have done. You are right, with the "might as well keep failing and overspending." This is how I got here!!