Boyfriend moving into daughter's house

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G_M wrote: »

Yes.

...:huh:

Yep...happens the other way round too ....re landlord/lady and lodger...:cool:

I had 3 male lodgers in my time back when years ago I had some. Most were women and then I got a bit older and thought it would be "safe" to take in male ones. Got that one wrong - 2 out of the 3 of them were emitting "hopeful vibes" and had to be cut short in their prime on that one:cool::rotfl:

mrginge

DaftyDuck wrote: »

.... or why it's double the average rate!

Apparently it’s significantly cheaper if you look for rooms through grinder

aneary

Sea_Shell wrote: »

Just shows how the world has changed in 20 odd years. when I moved in with BF, he owned his place, and if it hadn't lasted an I would've moved out again, back to M&D's...simples.

I don't think it would have ever crossed my mind that i'd be due something of it. Even if I'd been paying my 'keep' towards ALL the bills/mortgage etc.

We might have had a "whose CD is this" discussion, but that would've been about it.

but I guess it's all down to time-scales...1 yr, 5 yrs, 10 yrs, and the position could be very different, with each party bringing varying £££ to the next purchase etc.

It's also that housing costs so much more, When my parents brought they as FTB could afford a 3 bedroom terrace house in a nice area in Surrey and they weren't on fantastic wages, I can afford a 2 bedroom flat and that is a small 2 bed flat in Portsmouth. I couldn't afford a studio where my parents live and I earn really good money

glasgowdan

Seeing at she is 25, working and a home owner I would be tempted to try hard to stand back and not interfere. I know if my mum was trying to organise my life finances I would be utterly livid at her.

Mojisola

phebe3 wrote: »

Cheers everyone...and yes..she IS 25 and I don't want to over interfere so was trying to get my facts straight before I gently hinted something.

glasgowdan wrote: »

Seeing at she is 25, working and a home owner I would be tempted to try hard to stand back and not interfere. I know if my mum was trying to organise my life finances I would be utterly livid at her.

That doesn't sound the case here.

I was happy to take advice from my parents all my life - they'd had more and different experiences to me so it was worth sharing what we knew.

They knew I'd make up my own mind and they were happy to listen to advice from me about stuff they didn't know about.

FBaby

Could he make a claim? Yes, but his chance of getting anything would be dependent on many factors, the first one clearly being how long he has been contributing.

If he is transferring £200 a month stating that this is for half of the bills and he decides to go in 6 months, then he would almost certainly not.

If he contributes £200, which in 1 years time goes to £500 and the transfer states 'contribution towards mortgage, bills and repairs' and he goes in 10 years time, then he might have a case.

HOWEVER, for that, he would have to take her to court, and such cases can quickly become very costly, so whether he is likely to consider suing her would very much depend on the increase in equity during that period.

My view is that he would be very unlikely to take her to court by paying £200 a month for say two years. If after 2/3 years they are still going strong, then surely it would then become time to start talking about the next step in terms of commitment and investment.