Should I quit my new job?

Stressedtothemax95

I've been at my new job for just under three months and I already dread going into work. It's a new industry for me so I am a trainee, the training I've had is poor, I've just been shown how to use the systems and have crammed everything else together only showing me how to do something once. Because of this I haven't been able to absorb all the information, when I ask my line manager how to do something again I either get talked down to as if I'm stupid or she makes it seem like I'm frustrating her. Which than makes me not want to ask for help.

I'm not getting on well with my line manager, she micromanages me and she takes up most of my day just by emailing her back and forth about little things and what I'm doing and if I've done this and that. Almost all her emails to me are negative and I never seem to please her. The system where we keep all our bookings was never shown to me on how she liked new bookings set up such as colour coding, pay and charge rates etc. So I had to guide myself, she wasn't happy with it and sent me an email on how it should be laid out, I did as she said and have done so but she's still complaining that it's "not pretty enough" and doesn't elaborate.

On two occassions she has blamed me for her mistakes even though I have proof she cocked up, she doesn't accept it and turns it around on me basicially saying I'm just so stupid I didn't understand her. She has taken credit for my work resourcing a new client and not once have I been thanked for the work I do or the long hours and hard work. I bust my !!! off everyday, I'm generally in the office for 7am (my start time is 8am), there till home time and than working in the evenings and weekends from home. Still this isn't good enough for her and I've gotten to the point that I think !!!! it what's the point, no matter what I do, how long I work or how hard I work pleases her. All I get is negative, negative, negative feedback and it's effecting my confidence at work.

I'm feeling very unwelcomed and have not had a very welcoming response, I feel very underapreciated and feel as if I'm being made out as if I'm a poor worker which isn't the case, I just have been thrown in the deep end without proper training. My line manager has actually taught me the wrong way and other staff are telling me that it should be done differently. I know it's not me or my work ethic as in my last two jobs they've both wanted me to stay on and was really sad to see me leave, I never had a problem with picking up things and was never made to feel incompetent in the training process. Should I call it quits? The job is starting to effect my health, I'm stressed constantly, anxious all the time and am finding it hard to sleep, concentrate and eat. A job surely isn't worth this?

tacpot12

How easily can you get another job? If you think it will be quite easy, I would start looking now.

I would stop working extra hours for them. Just do your best in the time they are paying you for. Start keeping notes of each complaint or !!!!-up from your boss, for your own sanity, but do so securely, e.g. on your own mobile phone.

You will struggle to get someone to appreciate you, you less you ask them to do so. Tell them you feel unappreciated. Don't tell them you are thinking about leaving, just point out that they have never thanked you for your work. It can only go one of two ways...

indianabones

Ok first thing is, seems like your manager is horrible and is being unrealistic in what to expect. It took me about 9-12 months to really start doing my job properly where I was, so depending on how involved and challenging the role, it can take some time. As the saying goes, it can take a month to lose a resource, but it will take a year to replace them.


Be very careful how you speak and behave from now on, record everything that you can but don't disclose that you are and be prepared to use it. All emails should be strictly professional and always accurate.


You then have to decide, do you think you would enjoy the work if someone else was the manager? If yes then this is definitely the field you want to spend time in. If it isn't then it might not be for you.


Personally I think you should go to HR and speak to them anonymously if you can. If your company is not that large and you don't have a HR person or it can't be an anonymous chat then you may have to bite the bullet and speak to your manager.


Today I did something very similar, I'm afraid as a result I might get the sack. But unless I spoke in openly about it to my manager, my feelings may never have been known.


It's a tough choice I know, but life is full of them and only you can decide what to do in the end.

Stressedtothemax95

I do like the job I am a Account Manager for a recruitment company, the job is very demanding and I know other staff aren't happy in their roles either. I feel as if I love the job but hate the company I work for. In all honesty I don't think they are a great company to work for, I wish I had done more research before I had accepted. I have weekly meetings with my line manager, the last one was very short and breif, she never scheduled one with me this week so I'm starting to get the feeling I will likely be let go after my three month probation.

I plan to bring them up with her this week if she decideds to schedule one with me, and maybe inform her that I do not feel that I mesh well with the company or the job. I have had a number of emails from other agencies contacting me regarding roles so I don't think finding another job will be very hard.

System

Stressedtothemax95 wrote: »

I've been at my new job for just under three months and I already dread going into work. It's a new industry for me so I am a trainee, the training I've had is poor, I've just been shown how to use the systems and have crammed everything else together only showing me how to do something once. Because of this I haven't been able to absorb all the information, when I ask my line manager how to do something again I either get talked down to as if I'm stupid or she makes it seem like I'm frustrating her. Which than makes me not want to ask for help.

I'm not getting on well with my line manager, she micromanages me and she takes up most of my day just by emailing her back and forth about little things and what I'm doing and if I've done this and that. Almost all her emails to me are negative and I never seem to please her. The system where we keep all our bookings was never shown to me on how she liked new bookings set up such as colour coding, pay and charge rates etc. So I had to guide myself, she wasn't happy with it and sent me an email on how it should be laid out, I did as she said and have done so but she's still complaining that it's "not pretty enough" and doesn't elaborate.

On two occassions she has blamed me for her mistakes even though I have proof she cocked up, she doesn't accept it and turns it around on me basicially saying I'm just so stupid I didn't understand her. She has taken credit for my work resourcing a new client and not once have I been thanked for the work I do or the long hours and hard work. I bust my !!! off everyday, I'm generally in the office for 7am (my start time is 8am), there till home time and than working in the evenings and weekends from home. Still this isn't good enough for her and I've gotten to the point that I think !!!! it what's the point, no matter what I do, how long I work or how hard I work pleases her. All I get is negative, negative, negative feedback and it's effecting my confidence at work.

I'm feeling very unwelcomed and have not had a very welcoming response, I feel very underapreciated and feel as if I'm being made out as if I'm a poor worker which isn't the case, I just have been thrown in the deep end without proper training. My line manager has actually taught me the wrong way and other staff are telling me that it should be done differently. I know it's not me or my work ethic as in my last two jobs they've both wanted me to stay on and was really sad to see me leave, I never had a problem with picking up things and was never made to feel incompetent in the training process. Should I call it quits? The job is starting to effect my health, I'm stressed constantly, anxious all the time and am finding it hard to sleep, concentrate and eat. A job surely isn't worth this?

Personally if I had this much negativity going on in a job in less than 3 months I would be looking for another job and leaving.

ThemeOne

indianabones wrote: »

Personally I think you should go to HR and speak to them anonymously if you can. If your company is not that large and you don't have a HR person or it can't be an anonymous chat then you may have to bite the bullet and speak to your manager.


Today I did something very similar, I'm afraid as a result I might get the sack. But unless I spoke in openly about it to my manager, my feelings may never have been known.

I really wouldn't advise getting in touch with HR, they are only there to ensure the employer doesn't break employment law, and are usually in the pocket of management anyway - they're certainly not an in-house citizens advice bureau for employees.

If you haven't already created the expectation you will work long hours, I'd cut down on the hours - you're getting no thanks anyway, so why bother. Maybe put the time saved into following up some of the jobs going elsewhere.

ScorpiondeRooftrouser

Stressedtothemax95 wrote: »

I do like the job I am a Account Manager for a recruitment company, the job is very demanding and I know other staff aren't happy in their roles either. I feel as if I love the job but hate the company I work for. In all honesty I don't think they are a great company to work for, I wish I had done more research before I had accepted. I have weekly meetings with my line manager, the last one was very short and breif, she never scheduled one with me this week so I'm starting to get the feeling I will likely be let go after my three month probation.

I plan to bring them up with her this week if she decideds to schedule one with me, and maybe inform her that I do not feel that I mesh well with the company or the job. I have had a number of emails from other agencies contacting me regarding roles so I don't think finding another job will be very hard.

There's absolutely no reason not to look for another job. If you get offered one then that puts you in a position of strength. Make sure it's one you are prepared to leave and go to then tell your current company that unless x, y and z happen you are leaving. If they do them (not promise to do them in the future, but do them) you can stay if you want to; otherwise you leave.

sammyjammy

"not pretty enough" she sounds like one of those managers that will never be happy, she obviously would be more happy doing everyones work herself so that it meets her exacting standards, she's probably not that great herself! You will never please her but she is just one person in a company and doesn't own the place. Choice is yours as to whether you look for something else or come up with a different solution that means you work for the company but not her. Does she have a line manager, if I were thinking of leaving I would speak to them (professionally and without emotion/moaning), you have nothing to lose.

agrinnall

Once you mentioned that you work in recruitment all became clear, it is one of the must cut-throat jobs there is, and to get anywhere you have to be prepared to shaft your colleagues and the people who you are finding jobs for (although not your clients as they pay your wages). If that's not what your personality is then a job in another sector would be a good idea.