A cooking conundrum!

Pollycat

dandy-candy
My replies have been a bit blunt - I don't do 'there, there, have a nice cup of tea and it'll all be OK' type replies.
You might think that Mojisola's post is blunt too.
But I agree 100% with it.
It sounds like your children are not treating you with respect and expect to be waited on.
18 years old and making you cry?
Wouldn't bother to eat if you didn't deliver good to her bedroom?

You need to unlearn this behaviour they've developed.

You have enough on your plate as it is.
Read them the riot act.
They are adults, not children.

Mojisola

For many overweight people there is an emotional reason behind the weight gain (and why they put it all back on again if a 'diet' does work for short time).

As well as looking at making changes to your food and exercise habits, look at your whole life and see if you need to improve your self-esteem. I would feel awful if my children treated me like yours are treating you - it's sad to read about it.

jackyann

Interesting, isn't it, JackieO - I grew up (50s) in an area with a large number of Italians. My mum never cooked pizza, but I did have it sometimes at friends' houses -and it was nothing at all like the ready-mades.
Sure, mozzarella isn't exactly low-fat, but basically, a bread base, spread with passata, some mozzarella, and then other toppings as liked is not unhealthy.
It was a West Indian friend who introduced me to the principle of stir-fry, and I use it to use up left-overs.Lots of veg, a bit of sliced meat, and some noodles. DH, who does not like 'greens' will happily eat them chopped in a stir-fry with chillies etc. He can add some sauce from the Chinese shop (where I buy the noodles) and I don't.

Whilst I agree that OP's children need to be respectful and helpful, I think with practice, you can make food that pleases most of the family for most of the time. The kids need food that they enjoy, and some account taken of the big appetites that young adults have.

My kids mostly ate up what was put in front of them, but I tried to please as much as I could within reason. They all love their food, all but one are enthusiastic cooks, and the other one makes a good meal; and thankfully, all are healthy weights.

I hope the family can have some honest conversations, with all contributing what feels helpful.

Mojisola

jackyann wrote: »

The kids need food that they enjoy, and some account taken of the big appetites that young adults have.

But they're not kids - they are old enough to be sharing the chores.

With five adults in the house, the OP only needs to cook a couple of times a week - let everyone else take their turn.

sooty&sweep

Hi
I think a lot of weight problems aren't just about what you eat but how much you eat.

I've done weight watchers in the past & it highlighted to me that it's not that I particularly eat bad things but I eat too much !

If like me you like to see a full plate either use a smaller plate or fill your plate with veg or salad so there is less room for the fattening things !

Jen

jackyann

Yes, I do realise that they are adults, but behaving like kids! Sometimes I think that age are the most resistant to their parents changing things.

purpleybat

i'm sorry, there are no kids in this household, only adults.
if they don't want to eat what's on offer they can go out, shop, cook and clean up themselves.
the same as a lot of us did at that age if not younger.


if they're going to be such brats with temper tantrums and strops.... let them