Executors expenses dispute

badmemory

Whilst I am sure this must rankle (I know it would with me) I would just make sure that this sibling doesn't have either your or your brothers doorkey, is not one of YOUR executors and does not have involvement in your power of attorneys. You won't get him to feel bad or even admit what he has done, so the only person to suffer will be you. Do your best to move away from this. Yes it is not right and it is not fair, but some people - well they just can't help themselves. Try hard to, as they say, move on.

chesky

I'd have been more upset about the watch which had been left to me than the money.

barrytiptree

Yes it’s the watch I miss really as it was an item bequeathed to me. Thanks for the info everyone. I am aiming to put it all behind me and move on.

Yorkshireman99

Bad memory's advice is sound . Make sure that you have made a will and tell the solicitor why your brother, and his family will not get a penny in case he should contest the it.

Malthusian

chesky wrote: »

I'd have been more upset about the watch which had been left to me than the money.

As they say, it's the thought that counts - I still know that my father cared enough to bequeath me the watch even if I haven't got the lump of metal.

Assuming we're not talking about a ludicrous amount of money, I would use the inheritance to buy a watch as close to my father's as I could get. Exactly what I'd be doing if I'd received the watch as I was meant to and then immediately had it fall into a drain - treating the theft as a similarly unfortunate accident. The emotional meaning of the bequest is carried by the watch on the wrist of the person who was meant to have it, not the one that was stolen. (And although it's extremely petty and not the main motivation, I would be sure to wear the new watch when my brother happened to be in the room.)