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VJsmum

Morning all - I am up and on the train to London, and then Kent, to have lunch with my sister (I have free travel and can work on the train so it makes sense for me to visit her).

it's the first time i'll have done this journey since dad's funeral so a bit of a toughie mentally, but better to get it out of the way. I am not actually going to the town where dad lived, i have no real reason to go there now I have two brothers there but if we do a meet I will probably suggest somewhere more halfway.

DS has gone back to uni this morning - only 5 weeks till he finishes for the summer :eek: and he can move out of his awful flat :T Next year he has a house share so I hope that he will be happier. I don't think he's still smoking - i can't smell it on him and he hasn't disappeared off for half an hour like he was before.. he is also back into his fitness...

burtha, nice to see you posting... And positive vibes and good thoughts to hopeful Joy and your DD - try not to feel guilty, it wasn't you administering the abuse and you are not responsible for the actions of others... I loved my mum and dad dearly but my childhood was not ideal (though not abusive), they certainly made some mistakes but now i just think that i wouldn't like my kids to blame me for the mistakes i made so I am not blaming my parents for theirs..

LameWolf

ivyleaf wrote: »

As far as trying to remember words is concerned, I usually enjoy the big general knowledge crossword in the Saturday paper, but the last couple of weeks I've found myself quite unable to fill in a lot of answers I should know perfectly well :mad: I think it's probably to do with the hormone problem though, as it's happened quite suddenly.

We do the general knowledge crossword. too; I think with GK it's often either you know or you don't; I can usually answer the clues on astronomy and Greek/Egyptian/Celtic mythology, and Mr LW usually knows the names of famous scientists/engineers/artists. I don't tend to try to remember GK stuff, as long as I know where to find it other than t'internet. The real test for me is the Cryptic crossword.;)

mardatha wrote: »

Fuddle you're so like me. Which I know is dead scary. I went through all this stuff when I got bad ME although I was 55 which is very different from being 35. But it was a kind of rage, and it's still inside me yet now that I've got this new diagnosis. I get angry that the RV has to do so much, that I cause him a lot of worry, that I don't pull my weight, etc.

I'm very much like that - I've been angry ever since I got my RA diagnosis, back in 1999. Then I got diagnosed with lupus in 2003, three days before my wedding!! :eek: I even asked Mr LW if he still wanted to go ahead with the wedding, given the new diagnosis, and he said he did :A It makes me madder than a mad thing to have to rely on him for so much, even dressing and bathing, as I've always done everything for myself (had to in my first marriage, as that lazy toad wouldn't lift a finger around the house other than to knock me about, but that's another tale) and it irks me that I'm now too much a "passenger" iyswim.

But I think in some ways the anger keeps me going; if I didn't get angry with it, I'd sink into despondency, which, for me, is more difficult to deal with.

mardatha wrote: »

Was it the Mull of Kintyre?

Another song, then? I'll get my coat.......

Hopefuljoy wrote: »

If any of you are the praying type can you mention my daughter? Doesn't matter what religion you are!

I'll invoke Isis; she's excellent at putting the broken pieces back together. x

ivyleaf

LameWolf I can't do cryptic crosswords, except for the odd answer occasionally when I try out of curiosity. My late brother was ace at them, happy to tie his brain in knots! I'm so sorry to hear you have RA as well as the lupus, which I already knew about :mad:

monnagran I'm glad for you that the viewing's been cancelled. Did the EA say why?

Great to see a post from you burtha

karcher Hoping you're as all right as possible!

OH and I are meant to be getting stuff ready to pack for our holiday, but we had to go to one town which isn't far but an awkward journey, for a particular shoe shop, then to Bluewater so I could exchange some trousers which I'd bought a couple of weeks ago and then on trying them on at home I realised they really weren't quite long enough - it turned out they were "short" length rather than "regular", so no wonder. We didn't really do that much walking, but are both worn out now and I reached can't-put-one-foot-in-front-of-the-other mode! So a bit of a rest, I think, before I go and look out last year's summer tops and decide which to take. I expect they'll need a quick wash to freshen them up.

ETA Hopefuljoy Forgot to say I'll be praying too.

silvasava

Just a quick note to wish Hopefuljoy's daughter, Burtha & Karcher positive vibes.

MMF007

VJsMum, it will be odd indeed. When I made the first trip to mum's after dad died in January I was fine about him not being in the house, and about sorting out and donating his clothes. It hit me when we were leaving to come home. Just mum waving us off ...

We are currently dealing with a flurry of requests from folk who want to attend his memorial lunch on 1st June. They will be coming from far and wide!

Busy day today, my arms are so tired thanks to manic vaccing, bed-making, lifting heavy shopping, and cleaning in general. I was planning a stir fry for tea but can't be bothered to chop stuff up so it'll be HM soup from the freezer :rotfl:

monnagran

Ivyleaf. No idea why the viewing was cancelled but there is another one by a different person for Saturday, so I've not got away with it completely.

I love a good cryptic crossword but I've always held that you have to have a devious mind to tackle them successfully. What amazes me is when you almost finish one but there is just one clue that eludes you.
The next morning you take another look and the answer is staring you in the face.
Why is that?

nursemaggie

Sorry I have not posted all weekend, still not got much to day. I feel like we are both just waiting to hear if we have a flat or not.

DS is being asked to produce things he just does not have and neither do I if I was asked for them. I have got my Shark stick vacuum will try it tomorrow. It came in two tall narrow boxes so I think I will pack my stash in them.

Softstuff

I'm just catching up, a bit pooped, and a week with a bit more work. More money, but it's that special time of the month too, so I'm a bit more tired anyway.

Good news about your son not smoking Vjsmum, seems he might have snapped out of it.

Hopefuljoy, I'm not a prayer, but sending love xxx

pandamonium

Sending good vibes to all in need of them. Hopeful joy, I have an adult child with anxiety issues - I blame myself too. I need to think more like VJsmum.

Managed to get a car boot load of stuff to the CS today, but don't seem to have made that much space. Garage Tetris must continue.

Panda x

burtha

Evening all, today's been a day of ups and downs , work was busy ,ran to pick dgd up from nursery and walked home , singing silly songs , then sorted out bedding and tried the kennel out for 3 dogs as they haven't been in it for a long time , then moved 2 sofas outside with teenage boy child as we won't be needed them and getting rid of anything I can now , then taxi service for ds , quick catch up with new dgs ,he's fab can you belive he's 3 mth old already , then boot camp , return taxi duties for ds , then it went a bit pair shaped, dogs have escaped from kennel , washing machine not draining , switched oven on for it then to trip the lights , spent the next half hour jumping up and down to the box sorting it out , now sitting on the floor with the dogs , will move one of the other sofas through tomorrow from the other sitting room .
Waiting to hear from 3mw to solicitor about his reply and if we have to get a order to get his financial details .....
So , will end up going to bed tonight , haven't been to bed in now nearly 10mth odd ....
night all x