Teacher told child she could wet herself

Pollycat

Mojisola wrote: »

Where's the rule that says we're only allowed to discuss an issue in terms that are relevant to the opening post?

If a school has a blanket rule that no child is allowed out to the toilet during lesson times, a girl will eventually have an embarrassing incident.

Just because it didn't happen with the OP's child isn't a reason not to discuss it.

Pollycat wrote: »

Yes, the teacher didn't know that.
Yes, she wasn't on her period.

So - imho only - discussion about what happens when someone is having their period and wants to go to the toilet is irrelevant to the OP's specific complaint..

^^^^
Did I say there was a rule that says we're only allowed to discuss an issue in terms that are relevant to the opening post?

Where is the rule that says we're not allowed to express our own opinions?

^^^^ Hypothetical question. I know there isn't one.

Mojisola

Pollycat wrote: »

Where is the rule that says we're not allowed to express our own opinions?

That's ironic! You were telling us that we should be restricting our replies.

FBaby

It's easy. Child is known to mess about and her requests to go to the toilet was the 3rd one that week, after being allowed to go the times before but reminded to go at break. Child took ages to come back leaving teacher suspicious that this was not about needing the toilet: Teacher acted totally reasonable.

Child is always well behaved, never asked to go to the toilet before, looked uncomfortable and shy about it. Totally unreasonable.

Pollycat

Mojisola wrote: »

That's ironic! You were telling us that we should be restricting our replies.

I was telling you nothing of the kind.

It is my opinion that a discussion about what happens when someone is having their period and wants to go to the toilet is irrelevant to the OP's specific complaint.

You don't have to agree.

You - or anyone else - don't have to stop discussing how a pupil should deal with a need to use the toilet if she is on her period or how a teacher should deal with a request to use the toilet if the pupil is on her period.

Pollycat

jondav wrote: »

This is the point. The period was mentioned by the mother as a "what if" scenario, which makes the situation seem much worse than it actually is.

I agree with this ^^^^.

jondav wrote: »

Fact is there was no period involved and the girl should have gone to the loo when she had the chance just minutes earlier.

birtley90 wrote: »

It was 40 minutes after lunch, quite reasonable in my eyes to need a wee after lunch. She had to wait 1hr and half

KateySW

jondav wrote: »

Don't be ridiculous.

A young girl of this age who has started her period will have (or should have had) that conversation with her parents, at least her mother.

And during that conversation, a responsible mother would explain to her daughter how to be prepared, how to be discreet and how to make sure that they don't have to skip out of class just s few minutes after having a break.

They will have to learn to deal with periods sooner or later - why not start now??

Mollycoddled, spoiled kids are the reason this country is in such a mess - they expect everything to just go their way and the worst thing is the parents back them up!!

Just posting this here again jondav, seeing as you've just argued back that the whole point is that it wasn't about it being her period - bit odd when you wrote the comment above about dealing with periods, being discreet, having the conversation with mothers, not having to skip out of class etc etc...

My comment wasn't out of context in response to that

Guest101

pollyanna24 wrote: »

You think every time a girl is on their period, they should bring in a note from home excusing them to go to the toilet?

Isn't this a little embarrassing for an 11 year old to have to hand to possibly a male teacher?

Why would it be any more embarrassing? Are you suggesting a male teacher wouldn't understand the issue? Seems a bit sexist....

Marvel1

Often I just have the sudden urge to go and need to go.

There are some stupid !!!!ers who seem incapable of thinking.

Guest101

Tell you what, next time one of you is doing your job, invite the teacher along to tell you how to do it..... Until then, you let him/her run their classroom as they see fit and you get on with your job, whether that's parenting or professional or both.


Using an extreme example to justify a position is a common flaw in liberal arguments. So how about this for a compromise.


If it's ok to leave the classroom because you are on your period, but not to use the toilet, would that be ok? Then simply explain to the teacher that is the reason and they'll be aware that for next few days it may happen, the situation should only occur a handful of times a term!

kingfisherblue

Similar thread to a recent one, teachers using their 'real' names signing up to defend the school.....

Has using the toilet in lesson time taken over from the school uniform threads?