Contacting an old friend

enjoyyourshoes

why bother ?

just leave the memories for memories.

Hedgehog99

You might feel the need to express your condolences, but would she want you to?

She's the one who is grieving.

Glad to see in your later post that you've decided to leave it.

If you wanted to mark it from your own point of view, you could make a private donation to a charity you think he would have supported, from what you knew about him.

Fireflyaway

Hedgehog99 wrote: »

You might feel the need to express your condolences, but would she want you to?

She's the one who is grieving.

Glad to see in your later post that you've decided to leave it.

If you wanted to mark it from your own point of view, you could make a private donation to a charity you think he would have supported, from what you knew about him.

Hedgehog99 that's a fab idea thanks! Yes I'm going to do that. Whilst my intentions were to just express my sadness and best wishes, i realise it might not be welcome or could appear weird. This makes me feel I am doing something positive without possible unintended consequences. Thanks.

System

I was contacted by a 'cousin' about 6 months ago who found me on Facebook. He wanted to let me know his Mum had died.

He's messaged me since once or twice and ive replied but since we dont really have anything in common any more i've not kept up with the contact.

Its a bit awkward to be honest.

Geoff1963

I don't want to rekindle our friendship but I'd hate her to have thought all these years I disliked her or something.

You are worried that if you contact her, she might want a friendship that you don't ; which sounds like you do dislike her.
If you don't dislike her, and would be happy for a friendship ; then do contact her.
Any contact is likely to be taken as an invitation ; and hence be hurtful if not followed through.

1886

Personally I would just leave it altogether

If her father had died recently then I think maybe a card/letter would be a nice touch but it was a year ago now