Cash gifts and divorce

martinthebandit

pphillips wrote: »

Why do you purport to know what the OP thinks and feels?

Let me help you, a question mark at the end of a sentence means it contains a question not a statement.

Why are you posting irrelevant questions?

Malthusian

pphillips wrote: »

Why do you purport to know what the OP thinks and feels?

Notwithstanding that martinthebandit was asking the OP what he thinks and feels, it was a reasonable question to ask because the OP is being deterred from giving his children money because of the fear that half of it may end up in the hands of their child-in-law.

If he considered his children's spouses family he would not be putting such short odds on the possibility of divorce, and the thought of them getting some of his money would not be as painful.

pphillips

Malthusian wrote: »

Notwithstanding that martinthebandit was asking the OP what he thinks and feels, it was a reasonable question to ask because the OP is being deterred from giving his children money because of the fear that half of it may end up in the hands of their child-in-law.

If he considered his children's spouses family he would not be putting such short odds on the possibility of divorce, and the thought of them getting some of his money would not be as painful.

All this is not really relevant as OP seemed to be happy with the first post that was written and has not returned since to engage with the moral police or discuss their feelings.

jumpedtheshark

Just in case OP returns, if you are really concerned, you could tell the couples that you want to make this gift but will only do so if they sign a post-nup (you might see them referred to as mid-nups - there's no technical difference) that excludes the gift from any matrimonial distribution in the event of divorce.

Nuptial agreements (pre-/post-(mid)nups, etc.) aren't technically legally binding, but courts invariably give effect to their contents unless it would leave the other spouse impoverished in the event of marriage breakdown.

Of course, your children might not like this idea and their spouses might like it even less! But it is a solution!