Suspended from work

Guest101

Conzy6666 wrote: »

The good thing about this is, I do not need you to believe me whether I have been to the police or not, I am telling you I have made a report for harassment and NOT assault, the manager son the day said to me that the whole situation was petty and did not need to go any further.

and for the millionth time, I did not go to the police about the assault!

Ok and what did the police say to you in relation to your complaint?

Conzy6666

Guest101 wrote: »

Ok and what did the police say to you in relation to your complaint?

they have made a report and and passed it onto a team called the resolution team and they will be in contact.

sangie595

Conzy6666 wrote: »

Like I said, I DID NOT swear at any of my colleagues and what planet are you living on if you think having an argument is gross misconduct?

Oh dear, oh dear. And I also expected the thread to go this way like all the other similar ones do.

Now, assuming that you haven't just finished GCSE 's and were wondering what to do with your time until the results come out, because, honestly, this sounds like the sort of thing that belongs in the playground the longer the thread goes on... The answer is that the planet they are on its the one everyone else is on - the one were conduct such as you described results in dismissal in 99% of cases. Nobody cares about your one night stand and your pretty squabbles- your management certainly don't care, don't want to hear it, and DO NOT want it in the workplace. And that is not about separating the two of you - it is about you growing up and realising that this conduct is entirely inappropriate in the workplace.

So you need to get your act together. When everyone is telling you that you may well be dismissed, arguing about definitions of gross misconduct (btw, you can be dismissed for bad conduct without it being "gross" - the difference is whether you get notice or not) and who is in the right about petty squabbles is foolish. We don't care about your, or your colleagues, sexual conduct outside work. Neither do your managers. Go in to a disciplinary / investigation with a convoluted story of this nature and you are inviting dismissal. Good grief - I'd dismiss you if I had to sit through this story!!!!

You were shouting and swearing in work. You had a slanging match with a colleague, and when you were told to drop it (which is generally the short version of " I am p'd off with the behavior of both of you, now disappear from my sight before I do something we will regret ") you decided to do some more shouting and swearing. It doesn't matter whether you were shouting at the manager, or the ceiling, or the door - this behavior is inappropriate, and you do not drag your colleagues and management into personal disputes.

I want to be utterly clear and leave no room for doubt. This here is your version of what happened. Your own version is always going to paint you in the best light, and there will be another version. At least one. If this is the best light you can come up with, you are screwed. So listen to what is being said. This is not good conduct and not a matter you should have brought into the workplace. You should not have risen to the bait (assuming your version to be correct). You should have been mature enough to ignore any taunting behaviour from one individual. You don't know what came over you. You can't be more apologetic for your part in this. You will take any steps to resolve this matter that the employers deem fit. And it will never happen again. Please don't dismiss you.... And if that isn't your defence, then I'd start job hunting right now, but bear in mind that at this stage, any reference request could refer to the suspension and the investigation, if not yet the disciplinary.

If you are very, very lucky, management may drop it with both of you getting a severe telling off. But I doubt it. The covert recording probably put paid to that. Because your defence that you were "out of control" and not thinking straight does sound a little thin when you had the presence of mind to record a conversation - which takes some planning. That element of the story doesn't quite fit. But no matter - you handed management a reason to want you gone, so hope that they can be gracious.

FBaby

Friday was the final straw for me and I got angry!! not an unreasonable reaction

What does 'I got angry' mean? The one think that is not clear in all you said is what exactly happen the minutes before she threw the book.

There's a bit different between you shouting something along the line of 'leave me alone, I have enough of you bringing this issue up in front of everyone, what's done is done, move on' and something like 'You fat b***, if you don't F*** stop telling me that your b*** is mine, I'm going to come to your house and smash your windows and I would tell your husband he better not be in the way or I'll smash his face too'.

The first, if no other history of previous outburst and perfect record, maybe a warning, the second....

robatwork

I would get in touch with the Jeremy Kyle show. Will give you something to do during your "gardening leave".