O/S Daily Saturday 20 May 2017

redruby

Morning all


Nels it might sound silly but have you told your dad that its ok to go ? I whispered in my dads ear that he could go (he hung on for ages too) and that we would look after mum, he went shortly after he might be worried about leaving your mum xx




Nice bright day here we are off to a yard sale at a local charity so I hope we can find some bargains.


Little Evie is having her haircut this morning which dd will take her to, I love haircut day she comes back all soft and beautifully smelling which lasts at lease two hours :rotfl:


Then I have to pick up the lamp I won on ebay so a bit of rushing round today.


Dinner is still a mystery but will be sorted later on.


I have the first of many washes on the go, should dry well today.


Have good days all xx

LaineyT

Morning everyone,

We are heading back home today but will be visiting Warwick Castle on the way so not quite finished yet It's been a smashing holiday and we certainly will be visiting again, what a beautiful part of the country.

Nelski in the last couple of days of DM's life she was very restless and clearly unhappy, my brother and I sat with her, told her very loved she was but it was ok to leave us know, that our darling Dad and brother were waiting for her. It seemed to be what she needed to hear and passed away the following morning, as a Mum albeit to middle aged children her first thought was still to protect us so we needed to tell her that we would be ok x

nmlc

Morning everyone

redruby - what a coincidence you posted about saying to your dad it was ok to go. When we were in the same situation with our relative that was in their final hours, one of the nurses said to me, sometimes they hold on and it's ok to say to them, to let go and we'll look after the remaining relatives etc. I was just thinking of this and then I read your post. I did tell our relative that when I was with them and a nurse in the room, the same as your dad, they did pass away some hours later.

Nelski - we're all thinking of you x

Keep safe and well x

nmlc x

monnagran

Nelski, you've been on my mind for the last few days. This waiting time seems to go on for ever doesn't it? When your father finally leaves you, you will just feel relief at first that it is all over. The grief follows later, at least that's how it was for me.
What's the betting that your father waits until your DB leaves?

My father died 6 years ago at the age of 97. I still have his cap on the newel post of my stairs that I pat on my way up to bed every night.

You may not feel it at the moment but this is a very precious time and one that you will look back on with fondness in years to come.

x

System

Morning all,

Just finished cleaning the van and we will be on our way home in a few minutes. One of the hounds has got a touch of colitis. I was up at 3 am with both of them. Glad to be going home. 5 days is long enough. Hubby is either asleep or can't sit still for long. No in between.

Nelski Mom hung on too. I think she realized she had ruined the relationship between myself and my brother and always worried about her finances. On the Friday morning I told her I loved her and me and my brother would be fine. I told her her finances were sorted and she was free to go to Dad.

Within minutes she passed.

Onwards and forwards

Have a great day all

[Deleted User]

Good Morning chums and <<hugs >> to Nelski and any one else in need.
Its such a difficult time when you see your loved ones at the end and hard sometimes for them to let go.I wish you all a peaceful release.

Today for a change the sun is up and shining and looks set to be there for the rest of today at least .I have a line of washing blow well on the line at the moment and will hopefully get it dried ironed and put away by tonight.
Good afternoon at History yesterday and my lovely tutor gave me a box of her chocolate muffins for my DGS as she know how hollow their legs are at times.She is a smashing cook and makes us all cakes for our Friday afternoon sessions .She has met the boys over the years as if they have had an inset when younger they have come with me to History. The boys appreciated her gift no end yesterday afternoon when I got back to their house with them

Today is my pottering around day I just have a nice relaxing day doing what ever I fancy on Saturday and its my 'day off' from my busy hectic life:) I rarely cross the threshold unless I have to and its just nice to have a little bit of 'me' time .:):):)
Hope everyone has a good day ,DGS Henry seemed to be pleased at how his Spanish GCSE went, its English on Monday then Geography, now one is out of the way he seems to be a lot more relaxed at least

Have a good weekend chums what ever you are doing enoy

Cheers JackieO xx

cliffsgirl

Nekski my father hung on too, we were called to the hospital 3 times as they thought the end was near. He lasted 13 days, the night he died the nurse said it wouldn't happen soon, my MIL lasted 8 days after being told she had 24 hours. When the time is right he will slip away. Thinking of you and your family, and praying for a peaceful end.

LameWolf

dumpling wrote: »

DD14's new nurse came yesterday but my goodness he can talk. After an hour both DD14 and myself was exhausted. He is coming to the meeting on Wednesday with DD's psychiatrist so I hope it will be ok.

How is she coping with having a male nurse looking after her? I do hope she can get some peace in her life, she sounds so troubled when you post about her. x

TravellingAbuela wrote: »

The specialist was running an hour late yesterday and I had £ signs zipping round my eyes at the thought of the parking fee.

I do think it is totally wrong that patients should have to fork out even more for hospital parking because the Dr or surgeon or whoever is running late. :mad: But then, I feel that hospital parking fees are nothing more than a tax on being ill.

Gers wrote: »

I've bitten my own particular bullet and invited some people for a drink next Friday evening. Usually I'm a bit awkward in social settings and prefer to be invited elsewhere so I can leave when I like. That's normally about an hour or so in, so having people here is a challenge for me! :rotfl:

Same here - I avoid having visitors if I possibly can. On the occasions we have Mr LW's pal over, I try and arrange it for when we have a dog staying - that way, if I need a time-out from the proceedings, I can cross my fingers behind my back and say "You'll have to excuse me for a while, I think Fido needs to pop out to the garden". One difference between us though is that I don't like invitations out, either; I'm just not comfortable with other people, and that's all there is to it.

Anyways, the rain has stopped for a bit, so I think I'll see to Cassie's afternoon walkies next.

Nelski *strength to keep going* vibes comin' atcha.

nannywindow

Hello everybody I'm back from my holidays :wave:
We had a lovely time despite some wet weather in the last week.
Have tried to keep a pace with the thread but apologies if I've missed anything. I did notice that Nelski and family are having a difficult time and I am sending many hugs.
The WM has been on non stop since we got home and I have put the heating on to dry some of the clothes as it is heavy showers here until about 5pm.
I hope that it clears up soon as we need to go back to the caravan to collect the bedding and put the cover back on. Hopefully we can call in DD's on the way back ( DGS has a football tournament this afternoon ) as she has torn the tendons and ligaments in her hand / wrist and is unable to drive. The DGC know that we always buy them presents when we go away and they will be champing at the bit to open them :rotfl:.
Too tired to cook tonight so we will order a Chinese meal then it will be a long soak in the bath and early to bed.
Hugs to all.

nan

dumpling

LameWolf wrote: »

How is she coping with having a male nurse looking after her? I do hope she can get some peace in her life, she sounds so troubled when you post about her. x

Honestly LW it breaks my heart to see her so sad and withdrawn. She used to be full of life, happy as anything and loved making people laugh. She did want to be a Red Coat at Butlins at one point and she would have been fantastic at it as she was a born entertainer. I feel furious at this wretched illness that is robbing her of all her confidence but I also feel very very guilty as there is a genetic component to it.

She is still a wonderful girl, extremely intelligent, geeky, very kind and thoughtful and loves a cuddle. I am holding onto the thought that she will not be ill for ever and she will 'come back'. She doesn't mind which sex looks after her as long as they are kind and treat her with respect, which they all have. I love her to bits and always will, I just want her to feel safe but she feels very scared and vulnerable at the moment.

Phew, that was probably more than you wanted to know but it is cathartic for me to write this down. Thank you for your concern x