Husband is depressed and it is destroying our finances

patman99

It sounds like his job is causing his depression. I know what that feels like as I suffer from it myself.

The best thing I did was to change jobs. I am no longer even on anti-depresants.

I would suggest your oh does the same with regards to work.

If he is good at diy, then he could start advertising his services and become his own boss.

sarahsays

Speaking from experience, I would say rent in the area you'd like to live in first. We bought a house in a rural area and found the locals very tight knit with outsiders viewed with suspicion. A right of way issue didn't help and we ended up selling at a huge loss just to get out of there (didn't feel safe). Having said that, with your budget, the world really is your oyster - could your / your husband's job / skills be transferred abroad also? A move would be best when your children are still young, once they start school and make friends they tend to want to stay there.