Overpaying "your half" of the mortgage

Sea_Shell

I just find the whole "whats mine is mine" financials just a bit strange when you are in fact a married couple, with a shared life, property and responsibilities.

In another thread, one had CC Debt, and the OH had savings....surely in a 'Marriage' you should be pulling together and working toward the greater good of the "household", not "hands off thats MY money"

Is it a generational thing?....i have no idea how old the OP is....but is it a younger couples thing. (we're in the 45-55 bracket)

LadyGnome

You may well find that the mortgage company won't let you come off the mortgage and remain on the deeds. They usually don't want anyone having ownership rights over the property that is not a party to the mortgage obligations.

edinburgher

In another thread, one had CC Debt, and the OH had savings....surely in a 'Marriage' you should be pulling together and working toward the greater good of the "household", not "hands off thats MY money"

I don't think it's necessarily a generational thing, but maybe it should be. I once lent an ex ££££ to help pay off her unsecured debts (we lived together and in some respects, were like an old married couple). I never saw any of that back and she never changed her ways! :rotfl:

Mrs E and I share all burdens and fun equally (with the exception of the odd little bit of cash we make through our own initiative for fun money).

DarkShadow

I suggest not to take a divorce. Both of you live as a team, that's what people generally do. Once in a while cheating is ok as life can be too boring - important to stay alert all times.

edinburgher

DarkShadow wrote: »

I suggest not to take a divorce. Both of you live as a team, that's what people generally do. Once in a while cheating is ok as life can be too boring - important to stay alert all times.

:rotfl: Priceless

DeterminedSingleMummy

I hope your wife/partner isn't on here DarkShadow :rotfl: :rotfl:

I don't have this problem as a single lady but if i was with someone and I earnt less I would still want to contribute 50/50 for bills and mortgages. For me I don't feel like I want anyone to "look after me" if that makes sense. But everyone is different.