Employment Rights

k3lvc

Donna_A wrote: »

I've done nothing wrong so need to look closer to home thanks

My advice was genuine and well meaning. Your employer presumably disagrees with your opinion and some compromise is likely to be needed to rebuild the relationship - the other option is to run away.


Sangie give much more professional advice - I'm speaking from personal experience

Donna_A

Thank you sharing your personnel experience though.

My manager hasn't given me a chance to speak about this either so she's taken his side.

tea_lover

You are now being given the chance to speak to your manager and put your side across. That would probably be more beneficial than a meeting with just HR. I do appreciate it's tough when something has built up in your head and seems insurmountable, but chances are you'll feel a lot better if you go to the meeting.

TrickyDicky101

Donna_A wrote: »

Thank you sharing your personnel experience though.

My manager hasn't given me a chance to speak about this either so she's taken his side.

I thought your manager wanted a meeting with you/your rep and HR - wouldn't that be your chance to address your concerns to her?

Donna_A

Thanks for all your responses.

Donna_A

I didn't say that I didn't want advice but you are coming across trying to say that this is my fault when you don't know the full story there is more to it but was just trying to summarise it.

I was trying to explain what happened that's all.

I am right by saying the way the whole thing has been handled is wrong and I am getting picked up hence why I asked for advice.

Ye on you go take your time elsewhere good idea!!

marliepanda

Donna_A wrote: »

I didn't say that I didn't want advice but you are coming across trying to say that this is my fault when you don't know the full story there is more to it but was just trying to summarise it.

I was trying to explain what happened that's all.

I am right by saying the way the whole thing has been handled is wrong and I am getting picked up hence why I asked for advice.

Ye on you go take your time elsewhere good idea!!

You're quite difficult to understand in most of your posts to be honest.

We aren't getting the full story, we're only getting your muddled side.

You are always going to think you're right. We always think we're right. However your manager doesn't seem to, and he may have good reason.

polgara

There are always more than one side to a story and it does appear that you are not willing to hear what your manager wants to say which is foolish. If you are adamant you are in the right then listen to what they say and refute it - but be aware that they may have feedback from others that may not corroborate your side of the story.

Take it that it could be valuable feedback and ask for support in developing your skills.

You would not believe how many 'established' managers I have worked with that have completely ballsed up managing staff who are difficult/poor performers etc and who have been extremely defensive when we try to coach them on how to do it better in the future.

Donna_A

My manager has just accused me of the things that the employee told her but not listened to me or asked about it. All of heard is my manager saying it's all my fault.

She also has given me a load of tasks with unreasonable deadlines as I only work 21 hours p/w. I have also tried to speak to her about this but again fallen on deafs ear. Over the last 2 years my work has doubled but yet she wants to more and more tasks on top.

I am an organised person and know exactly what my tasks are and how long they take to complete.

I have actually asked her to stop picking on me but she hasn't listened.

Anyway now taken advice from the union and explained exactly what has happened and what's been said by all parties. I also have this documented too.

k3lvc

Donna_A wrote: »

She also has given me a load of tasks with unreasonable deadlines as I only work 21 hours p/w. I have also tried to speak to her about this but again fallen on deafs ear. Over the last 2 years my work has doubled but yet she wants to more and more tasks on top.

Welcome to reality in a competitive market. Does she have a measure that others are able to complete the tasks quicker (in which case your speed is irrelevant)

Depending on how strong/confident you are then arrange a 10min meeting each week to set your priorities and then deliver against them - if she interrupts and asks for more then show her your time plan and ask what the new task takes priority over. As a last resort ask her, as your line manager, to show you how the tasks can be done in the time allocated.

If you want to keep your job then accept this as a warning shot and respond positively to it - ask for help rather than complaining - and demonstrate through attitude and actions your commitment to the business