Commitment phobes

Primrose

Commitment is easy enough in the good times but total commitment means signing up for the difficult times as well and having the courage to face all kinds of possibly challenging and unknown circumstances in the future.
Your Ex wasn't prepared or able to do this so you can only count yourself as fortunate that he decided to disappear off the scene now when he did rather than leaving you in the lurch at a potentially difficult and challenging time of your life when you were perhaps in crisis. That would have been a real double whammy to grapple with.

MXW

Primrose wrote: »

Commitment is easy enough in the good times but total commitment means signing up for the difficult times as well and having the courage to face all kinds of possibly challenging and unknown circumstances in the future.
Your Ex wasn't prepared or able to do this so you can only count yourself as fortunate that he decided to disappear off the scene now when he did rather than leaving you in the lurch at a potentially difficult and challenging time of your life when you were perhaps in crisis. That would have been a real double whammy to grapple with.

I've heard along the grapevine that he's working away for the foreseeable future...It wouldn't surprise me if it was just the excuse he needed to end things, so he didn't have to explain being away for so long. He brought the subject up of working away up when he ended things....Said it wasn't fair on me or him. I pointed out that him working away had never been an issue (which he couldn't deny), although the length of the contract was longer than normal.

Think he just thought it was easier to end things, then explain that he would be working away for some time. He avoided the (perceived) confrontation.