Interview under caution am really scared!

Art_Deco

Probably not a good idea to answer with any " no comments"If you are honest you shouldnt have any thing to worry about,. Agree with the fact that he would be better sleeping else where, what about at his mums with her being ill he would be on hand . Also get some proper maintenance arrangements, giving you £100 now and again is not really commiting to 3 children, Bring proof of his new address,Dont worry about the gifts for baby sitting . Tell them everything and hopefully it should be okay.

Nick_C

OP. Don't worry. Your ex staying over has raised grounds for suspicion that you may be co-habiting. Your story sounds innocent and truthful. Tell them what you have told us.

If they believe a crime may have been committed, then they have to interview you "under caution", otherwise they couldn't use what you say as evidence if you have done anything wrong.

So they believe you may have committed fraud. Tell them what you have told us and you should be OK. Try to keep calm and relaxed in the interview. Be polite and friendly. They should treat you the same way.

I wouldn't mention your new boyfriend unless they specifically ask. It seems irrelevant. But there is absolutely no reason why an ex shouldn't remain on friendly terms and stay over occasionally, especially given the situation with his mother.

newbutold

iammumtoone wrote: »

Thats a bit ironic.

Those that are innocent and just claiming the benefits they are entitled will not be able to afford a solicitor, those that are committing fraud will more likely have the spare funds for one

The advice on advicenow.org.uk. says to speak to a solicitor and that legal aid may help cover the costs.

I'm not saying op has done anything wrong, but it seems there is a grey area with the ex staying over and her looking after someone's child. That's why I said they should speak to a solicitor.

ctbfc

Just_a_Girl wrote: »

Is he registered at your address for anything? Bank account, driving license, etc. Did you remove him from the council tax account? Is he having any mail delivered there?

This ^, I assume that even with a tip off the council/ DWP would check whether there was a paper trail putting him at the address, otherwise its very difficult/ resource heavy to prove anything.

OP check he's not left any credit cards/ bank accounts at your address

curty510

newbutold wrote: »

I'm not saying op has done anything wrong, but it seems there is a grey area with the ex staying over and her looking after someone's child. That's why I said they should speak to a solicitor.

I imagine this is what they wish to talk to you about. A neighbour may have reported you as co-habiting with your childrens father and child minding.

As with any interview, just be honest, as being dishonest and getting caught can be costly in more ways than one.

TheHoneyMonster

I now have some suspicions on who has reported me, to cut a long story short she's someone I went to school with, who I've never got on, she has a daughter in the same class as mine and let's just say she's 6 going on 15 with an right bullying attitude!

Me any ex are not financially linked anymore, have not been since he left before the twins were born. He lives 30 miles away now and has his own home, job etc. He's provided me with a copy of his documents for his home, wage slips etc, copy of driving licence so I can show these if they ask.

I do think someone has reported me for him staying over occasionally, like I said this has increased a little in six months with his mum being ill, she's now expected to go into the hospice early next week, if not sooner.

I don't feel I need legal advice or support I shall go and be honest, hand on my heart I know I have done nothing wrong!!!

FBaby

Someone said that the fact you had a new boyfriend didn't matter. I think it can actually be quite good evidence if you can prove it, ie. not a statement from him that you are together as an item as anyone could do that, but maybe previous posts on Facebook about the relationship for instance?

TheHoneyMonster

FBaby wrote: »

Someone said that the fact you had a new boyfriend didn't matter. I think it can actually be quite good evidence if you can prove it, ie. not a statement from him that you are together as an item as anyone could do that, but maybe previous posts on Facebook about the relationship for instance?

I don't have a new boyfriend, I am seeing a female (yes part of the reason I left my children's dad) but we are not really serious yet, she's still a student and living at home, and occasionally stops over, I think 4 times in 8 weeks since we decided to try a relationship, it's fairly new ground for us both.

Guest101

OP my advice, as always is to read from a pre-prepared statement, take notes and answer no comment.


The interview is to gather evidence against you. Anything you want to say can be in your prepared statement

TELLIT01

How is the OP supposed to prepare a statement in advance when she doesn't know the reason for the interview? "No comment" responses will only extend the period of uncertainty.