Receiving sympathy card from someone they fell out

Legacy_user

A friend lost her husband last week. She received many sympathy cards all with kind, thoughtful messages.

One of the cards came from another friend who she fell out 5-6 years ago and sent it when heard his death. The card made my friend even more upset. It opened old wounds. Plus the message she wrote was awful and inappropriate for a sympathy card. The message contained glad (name) has died.

Apparently this person sends sympathy cards to people she has not spoken to for years and years. With similar Ill thought messages -
guilty conscience?

This woman worked with many of my colleagues in a previous company

toniq

That's awful, I'm certain there is something to do with malicious mail that is a crime.

Maybe ring the local police on the non urgent number and see what they say.

What a horrid person to do such a mean thing when someone is so vulnerable.

This article has some info http://www.harassmentlaw.co.uk/comm.htm

This goes into more depth http://www.cps.gov.uk/legal/a_to_c/communications_offences/

Manxman_in_exile

I would advise your friend to forget it.


It says more about the sender than it does your friend or her husband.

Bogalot

If she was sending it because of a guilty conscience then she wouldn't be saying she is glad he has died.

Did you have a question?

Yorkshireman99

Dreadful as it is your friend would be best to ignore it.

tensandunits_2

ScarletMarble wrote: »

The message contained glad (name) has died.

Apparently this person sends sympathy cards to people she has not spoken to for years and years. With similar Ill thought messages -
guilty conscience?

Mental illness, or just a nasty piece of work. It's sometimes difficult to tell.

Zeni

Manxman_in_exile wrote: »

I would advise your friend to forget it.


It says more about the sender than it does your friend or her husband.

This. Think what bitter, sad person they must be to be glad someone is dead and rub it in the face of their widow. If that's how she gets her enjoyment, really you should just pity her.

74jax

I certainly wouldn't bother the police.

I don't think it's a guilty conscience.

System

Reason I mentioned guilty conscience is that, people that she lost contact she sends a sympathy card to either the person she used to be in contact with or their spouse.

Or on a similar note, she visited one person almost daily in hospital when they were dying. No one had the guts as it's a difficult time to stay away

Malthusian

If this friend already knew the other "friend" got her kicks by sending poison pen letters then I'm surprised she even opened it.

It's not a trivial task to find out someone has died if you're no longer in contact with them. What a sad person. Not worth your mental energy.

ScarletMarble wrote: »

Or on a similar note, she visited one person almost daily in hospital when they were dying. No one had the guts as it's a difficult time to stay away

Guts to do what? Tell her to !!!!!! off? Hospitals are very strict about who visits, I can't think of an easier place to keep out an unwanted visitor.