Parental Rights

rebbonk

Having parental rights and getting them enforced are two different issues. A "difficult" ex can cause havoc. Think very long and hard before you start spending money

Scarlett1

overthehills wrote: »

It totally makes me sick, these woman who think they have the right to stop a child seeing it's father. Especially when they are good dad's at that. The CSA has simply given mothers (because it normally is the woman) the most wicked weapon. Don't pay me and you don't see your kids.

My husband is a great dad, but his ex wants him out of his childs life. So much so, his ex has changed his daughter's surname to that of her married one. (otherwise know as scenario) BUT she still wants maintenence. "He's not good enough to have his child called by her birth surname, but he's damn well good enough to pay for his child."

Sorry ,that doesn't help. Fight for the child and don't give up. If the child is of school age, go see the head and explain the situation. school may be the only source of contact.

Its not the heads job to sort out problems between parents, a school wont give out information on a child to a NRP unless they have PR down in writing.

overthehills

Scarlett1 wrote: »

Its not the heads job to sort out problems between parents, a school wont give out information on a child to a NRP unless they have PR down in writing.

The schools will do as much as they can, In our case they did. As long as there are no injunctions against the nrp, the school will encourage contact. It's what is best for the child.
Begin with your health visitor Lizalu.

frugallass

you don't apply for parental rights - you apply for parental responsibility

Zara33

frugallass wrote: »

you don't apply for parental rights - you apply for parental responsibility

Surely it's parental rights and responsibility.

frugallass

gaining parental responsibility gives you some rights such as being able to discuss your child's education with their teacher or accessing medical records etc

Vomityspice

You can make an application for 'Parental Responsibilty' at any local court. However, the proceedings will ultimately transfer to the local court of where the child is living. The cost isn't particularly prohibative at £350, unless you don't have £350! There are opions open to those of low incomes to have their fees waivered.

Whilst your at it, apply for a Sec. 8 'Contact Order' so your ability to see your children is organised. You'll see a Court Welfare Officer (CAFCASS) who will talk to you about being reasonable and putting the child's interests first. If they can get an agreed resolution then it just speed things up.

The advantage of PR is that you have rights to information from schools, doctors about your children. Additionally, it means that you need not ask permission from the ex about every issue. (i.e. Haircut, piercings, etc)

The change of name is also a big no-no. Ask the court to reinstate the original name as courts take very seriously such a change.

unicornstar

overthehills wrote: »

The schools will do as much as they can, In our case they did. As long as there are no injunctions against the nrp, the school will encourage contact. It's what is best for the child.
Begin with your health visitor Lizalu.

OMG Are you serious?! The schools can really let the NRP have contact without the mothers permission?! That's disgusting! In that case when my currently unborn son gets to school age I'm gonna have to educate him at home!

claretslass

unicornstar - why is it disgusting? why would the dad not have the same rights as the mum, why is it ok for some bitter woman to stop their kids seeing the other parent? it seems to me its not about the children and whats best for them but just about women trying to cause as much hurt and expense for their ex as they can

unicornstar

Of course it's disgusting! What if the mother has a good reason to not let the father see the child!? My 21 month old daughters dad is irresponsible, takes drugs, never contributes to her life in any way at all, has only seen her a handful of times (by his own choice I might add) and you think that he should have the right to just walk into her school when she's older and see her without my consent?! Her dad doesn't have the same rights as me I'm afraid! I'm not bitter at all, just want the best for my daughter!