I knew getting married was a bad idea...

Mojisola

*~Zephyr~* wrote: »

Then we thought we'd wander over the road to have tea in the posh hotel before going for a nice meal at lunchtime, a few drinks and then home before rush hour traffic. Simples. Exactly what we wanted.

Skip the tea across the road - book taxis to be ready outside the RO when you come out and head off to to a the posh hotel and the six of you can have your planned meal. Don't tell anyone else which hotel you're going to!

You've got time to make it clear to all your relatives and friends that it is a quiet event with just the six of you and that you don't want anyone else turning up.

Are your relatives going to be bonkers enough to do a "follow that taxi" chase across town so that you don't escape them?

Mojisola

*~Zephyr~* wrote: »

It really is astonishing how people invite themselves to weddings! You tell them you're getting wed and they immediately assume that you are inviting them and start arranging ruddy accommodation!

DomRavioli (ace name!) you are SO right. They are terribly manipulative.

The manipulation is something you're going to have to stand up to if you don't want your day ruined.

One of our sons got married with just him and DIL and two close friends. It was the way they wanted to it (for very good reasons) - of course, we would have loved to have shared the day with them but it was their decision and we had to respect that.

NCC-1701

We had a quiet wedding, only the people we wanted there were there because we told no one else ! You have I'm afraid let the Genie out the bottle!

suki1964

I planned on just the four guests, but then word got around and friends got the hump about not being invited

So I had around 40 people turn up, some to the registrars some came during the day It was OK as we just done a small afternoon buffet in the garden, very laid back and causal, some friends even popped in straight from a shift in work clothes

It didn't cost much, was no big deal but in a way it was even more special for us knowing that friends did want to celebrate with us

We had no wedding pressies, no speeches , no photographs , it was just like a summers BBQ with a wedding cake ( gift from sister)

Danny.Olier

NCC-1701 wrote: »

We had a quiet wedding, only the people we wanted there were there because we told no one else ! You have I'm afraid let the Genie out the bottle!

Exactly. People understand that a wedding is a personal thing and everyone chooses how he wants to celebrate it. :T

GlasweJen

You need to learn how to say "that's not what we want" on a loop.