Anonymous Valentines - Secret Admirers

tesuhoha

Apologies for starting a second thread but I was wondering out of interest has anyone been sent an anonymous Valentine. How did it work out? Or have you sent one?

I got a card one year when I worked in a bank in my late teens. I never found out who it was from. It could have been a prank by someone in the office of course.

However, I went for a walk on a lovely sunny day and met this young guy. We sat on the riverbank and chatted all afternoon. When we parted he didn't ask me out but said it was nice to meet me.We got on so well and he sent me a greeting at work. I always wondered if it was him that sent the card.

Another time I got sent some flowers at work, not on Valentines Day I hasten to add. The card just read 'sorry' which intrigued me. It was a bit disappointing to find out they were from the garage that messed up my car service!

miss_independent

As a teenager it would have been a dream come true as I'd have imagined it was the gorgeous guy I'd had a crush on.

Now though, I'd be really creeped out as I've had too many dodgy experiences :eek:.

When I was 24, I came back from a lovely weekend away over Valentines to discover a huge bouquet of flowers on my doorstep. Turns out it was from a man at church who was about 50 and who'd taken to sitting in the same row as me each week. I always thought he just liked chatting to my family and, if anything saw him as a father figure :eek:. I didn't give him any impression that I would have been interested in a romance or anything like that so I don't know what made him think I'd appreciate flowers over Valentines. I didn't give him my address so found the whole thing a bit unnerving. It clearly didn't have the effect on me that he had intended as a few weeks later he disappeared never to be seen again.

The following year a Valentine's card appeared for me at church. I didn't have to wonder who it was from for long because the next week a man approached my mother in tears saying that he felt really guilty sending me a Valentine's card when he was in his sixties :eek: and that he'd went to a priest to confess that he'd been having inappropriate thoughts about me etc...all very awkward and embarrassing for all involved. It was quite apparent that he has mental health problems and is a vulnerable member of society. Again, I don't know what I could have done to encourage that kind of attention from him.

Since I was a teenager I've been the genuine victim of a stalker (again from a church I went to as a child) and again the man involved is a lot older. Over the past year he has been hand delivering letters to the door and I've had to get the police involved. If I'd have received an anonymous valentine this year I'd have had to hand it over to the police so I'm really glad I didn't get one!

Taking BF out of the equation for a second...if I was single and knowing the guys that I know, I wouldn't have appreciated at anonymous valentine at this age. I would have imagined it was either a joke or from someone who was a bit strange. It's different when you are a kid at school but I just think, once you are in your 20's and beyond, you should be able to express interest in the person you like. It doesn't have to be a dramatic declaration of love or anything just a cheeky/playful little comment that wouldn't be a big deal if it was rebuffed. It's undoubtedly due to my past experiences that I find anonymous valentines creepy but I wonder if others feel the same way?

Gloomendoom

My wife got an anonymous Valentine's email.

It was explicit rather than romantic.

Hey-ho. I suppose I ought to be flattered.

Fireflyaway

No. I would feel creeped out if I did. Mind you I am happily married and so rewind 20 years I might have been flattered back then. I don't see the point of anonymous cards / gifts. Surely the recipient needs to know who its from if anything is to come of it?!

ripplyuk

I got an anonymous valentines card 3 years ago. It came through the letterbox but was hand delivered. I still have no idea who sent it. It was partly sweet but partly creepy. He mentioned how he 'sees me all the time' and wanted to get to know me better. I'm not sure how he meant to achieve that since he never owned up.

My best guess is that it was my postman at the time. He was very chatty! But who knows. I've never told my partner about it because he'd completely freak out.

System

I got a dozen red roses when i was 15 (also a card declaring their love), from a stalker who somehow found out my home address. My mum thought it was romantic :eek: i thought it was creepy as hell

Serendipitious

25 years ago on Valentine's Day I found a single red rose under the windscreen wiper of my car with a little card that said 'You are an enigma.'

I never found out who that was from.

DigForVictory

Genuinely anonymous valentine gestures can be deeply bemusing - so much "what did I do?" when it's the other party who's snuck a flower under your wiper.
I can be pretty blase about stuff through the letter box (junk mail was tolerated as it gave infant offspring things to 'read', hold, chew etc) but getting hands on with my car? I was not at all happy.