Shared ownership/getting out!

olgalolo

Hi, I have been with the same partner for 35 years (we are not married). Over the past year he has become increasingly abusive to me to the point I have to call the police but they can`t do anything!
We own our house (ex council) outright. It is a shared ownership. I want to leave (I am 75 years old) but he refuses point blank! I cannot get sheltered housing because I`m a `house owner`!
I cannot have him removed from the house because he owns half!
Please help, I`m at my wits end!
Thank you

Guest101

olgalolo wrote: »

Hi, I have been with the same partner for 35 years (we are not married). Over the past year he has become increasingly abusive to me to the point I have to call the police but they can`t do anything! - well they can. They're choosing not to, there must be a reason for that
We own our house (ex council) outright. It is a shared ownership - that is not shared ownership, you own as either joint tenants or tenants in common. . I want to leave (I am 75 years old) but he refuses point blank! I cannot get sheltered housing because I`m a `house owner`! - Well you can, if you are a real victim.
I cannot have him removed from the house because he owns half! - he would be removed if he had committed a criminal offence.
Please help, I`m at my wits end!
Thank you

I think it's important to know what kind of things he does which you say are abusive, but with which the police don't agree

moneyistooshorttomention

Dont know if it makes a (legal) difference - but who was granted the original Council tenancy (ie you or him - or did you buy it after it had already ceased being a Council property)?

YetAgain!

Feeling scared or intimidated in your own home is never okay. Contact Women's Aid, Refuge or another local domestic abuse charity for help to get to a safe place, the housing really isn't the most important issue at the moment. Take care

olgalolo

Hi thank you for your reply.
We bought the house brand new from the council. It was called Equity share.
Thanks

Cakeguts

How old is your partner? Is it possible that he has become ill? There are some illnesses that affect the brain and change someone's personality. You may need to contact your local mental health team or your doctor. If it is a medical issue they will know what to do.

[Deleted User]

Hi, you have my sympathy.

I lived with a now ex.., he used to scare us, but because he didn't physically injure us (except for a couple of times five years before the last period of difficulties) or make open threats, the police would do nothing, nor would women's aid. As soon as the police came round he'd be his persuasive best and make me look like I was nuts. This was two years ago, not in the dark ages! It can be quite difficult getting anyone like the police to help.

The children are still terrified of him, but the police would do nothing.

I would try women's aid. They might help you. Its worth a try. They might have more options. Some of us know someone does not have to be overtly physically threatening to be abusive (exert power over you to make you do things you don't want to) but not everyone does. Your best chance is Women's Aid.

I hope you are able to find a way out.