Frump to Fab 2017 - A Whole New World

chanie

Gosh, the last few posts are full of sad news.

pink I struggle with drinking water and I have two methods which helps. Firstly, I have a water bottle which I sip throughout the day. Secondly, if I'm making a cuppa, I force myself to down a cup of water whilst the tea is brewing. It helps to stop thinking about it and just doing it.

ll how disrespectful of your sister.

sugar goid news about your grandson. I hope your daughter is okay. That must have been so scary for you all.

sukey sorry about your cat.

I also have some sad news. A relative of OHs died recently and the funeral was a couple of days ago.

maddiemay

chanie wrote: »

Gosh, the last few posts are full of sad news.

pink I struggle with drinking water and I have two methods which helps. Firstly, I have a water bottle which I sip throughout the day. Secondly, if I'm making a cuppa, I force myself to down a cup of water whilst the tea is brewing. It helps to stop thinking about it and just doing it.

ll how disrespectful of your sister.

sugar goid news about your grandson. I hope your daughter is okay. That must have been so scary for you all.

sukey sorry about your cat.

I also have some sad news. A relative of OHs died recently and the funeral was a couple of days ago.

It seems that quite a few of us are experiencing difficulties, health issues for ourselves or others and bereavements at the moment, sending virtual hugs to all who need/want some.:)

lessonlearned

Oh dear lovely Ladies. What sad news from all of you. Sending you all hugs and helping vibes.

TBH I'm not much better myself. I've not felt too good today, went back to bed for a while and then spent most of the day in the sofa.

Wishing you all a peaceful and restful Sunday - hope you all feel better soon.

X

sugarbaby125

Sukey sorry about the loss of your cat.

LL I hope you are feeling a lot brighter and healthier soon. Do not let your sister's actions bring you down

My daughter is still in Hospital. She did not have a comfortable night because they failed to have 2 of her normal high strength painkillers in stock in the hospital pharmacy. The CT scan results came back and there was nothing abnormal, so they can not explain why she had the respiratory attack. I am able to speak to her direct, as she has her mobile on her. I can not dwell on what may have happened to my daughter if she had not already been a patient in the hospital when she had the attack. They had to cut her clothes off her, so they could get to work on reviving her as quickly as possible.

My grandson and his girlfriend came to visit us. Lots of laughter, smiles and talking all round.

LaineyT

Sorry to hear so many are going through tough times, hope the poorlies get better soon and gentle blessings to all that grieve.

When the weather was sunny and warm earlier in the week I did think about moving my summer clothes to the wardrobe in the bedroom but glad I didn't as it's turned cold again! I did have a good sort through and apart from another pair of canvas plimsolls and possibly a summer skirt am pretty sure that I don't need much else, that said if I lose the weight I want may need some more linen trousers etc. Athough I did have a glass of wine last night and a couple of squares of dark chocolate, they were thoroughly enjoyed and certainly not regretted.
Have continued with my new skin care regime and to my eye it's certainly helping, have sourced a couple of good websites that seem to stock the kind of natural, ethical lines have been looking for. Earlier in the week I received a new day moisturiser from Green People and it's lovely they offer free postage on all orders which always helps so can see myself ordering more.
We have a quiet day at home planned for today, nothing more strenuous than loads of reading and of course the Archers omnibus to listen to.
Hope everyone enjoys their Sunday x

chanie

sugar I think you are right about not dwelling on what COULD have happened. I'd be a nervous wreck, so I have to put it all to one side.

lainey pleased your ethical skincare is working out.

indiepanda

Virtual hugs all round.

LL so sorry to hear about the ongoing issues with your sister. It reminds me of that old adage about being able to choose your friends but not being able to choose your family... Whilst some people are lucky enough to have come from a wonderful, loving and supportive family, some of us are saddled with relatives who we would never willingly be friends with, but we're expected to make the best of it because "blood is thicker than water". Judging when to stop trying and walk away is so hard.

Sukey, sorry to hear about your cat and Chanie about your OH's relative.

Sugar sorry to hear about your daughter, thank goodness she was in the right place for them to look after her.

I have some friends I have met on hiking trips and we chat on messenger to let each other know which trips we are planning to do next. They aren't my close friends like my London pals, live 100s of miles away and we don't tend to meet up in between trips, but still people whose company I've enjoyed and acquaintances sounds too cold a description for the good times we've enjoyed. Anyway one of them messaged us this week and I thought it was going to be to say she'd managed to get a room for the trip we are going on to Scotland this summer - there were limited singles which had sold out quick and she was on the wait list for one. So it was something of a shock to read that whilst she'd been offered a room, she wouldn't be taking it because her walking days were over as she was in hospital with an aggressive form of ovarian cancer. She was being very brave and told us not to worry as she had good times, but it was such a shock, only saw her in November and she seemed fine then. She is older than me, but probably only in mid fifties.

It really made me think - I always imagine I have a long life ahead to look forward to and am more worried about making sure I have enough savings to enjoy that retirement when it eventually comes than the possibility of never making retirement. But this serves as a salutary reminder that none of us know how long a life we have ahead, and whilst it's important to plan for the future, it's also vital to make sure we are making the most of the here and now. If it were me dying, I don't think I would be able to tell friends not to worry I had good times, I'd be frustrated at all the missed opportunities and things I have yet to do.

That's not me saying I am planning to live each day like it's my last - I've always though that an odd sentiment - I wouldn't go to work if I knew I was going to die the next day and I certainly wouldn't worry about trying to spend my money wisely. However, it does make me more determined to look after my health to maximise my life span (obesity is a risk factor for cancer and whilst not technically obese anymore I am still overweight) and to make the most of my life while I can.

The talk on how to get the guy yesterday was really interesting, presenter was very charismatic and it was impressive how long he could talk for with very few notes, it's a real skill. Given me lots of food for thought and have ordered the book which was written by his sons to get more ideas. Essentially what he was saying was dating is a numbers game and you've got to get out there and make lots of connections and always be looking for those opportunities to make some new connections and make the most of them. Also highlighted to me that I can be a bit of a serious stick and that whilst commitment to a relationship should be serious, dating should be quite fun and playful, and I need to let that more playful side out more to attract people to me.

I didn't stay for the practice night out - I was kind of people'd out by then after such a busy week, but I will be aiming to put into practice some of what I learned at Ceroc this afternoon. They were also talking about a retreat they run a couple of times a year in Florida and I've got a call to discuss the program with the presenter on Monday - this isn't so much about getting the guy you want as the life you want, and developing what they describe as "core confidence". He said the workshop could give you lots of strategies to meet people, but that if you don't have core confidence then you are likely to self sabotage or put up with being treated badly by the wrong guy (which certainly rings true for me!). He talked about three levels of confidence - surface confidence which is based on being good at things, and tends to mean you are confident in that situation rather than everywhere, lifestyle confidence which is based on the life you've built - home, job, friends etc, which is better, but if you lose some or all of those things, it can remove the confidence, and then core confidence is the true deep confidence in yourself and your own self worth, beyond your skills and lifestyle. I have moments of feeling that, but I am not convinced I am really there yet as I've not been tested that much lately.

Anyway, lots of things to do before I head out so better crack on, enjoy the rest of the weekend all x

lessonlearned

Good morning lovely ladies

What a fantastic post Indie, as ever.:rotfl: I really appreciate the way you pass on what you Are learning on all your courses etc.

Core confidence......yes I do have this but it took me a long time to realise it. I was tested beyond endurance when my husband was ill and I learned then that I had inner strengths. I astonished myself (and quite a few others). I learned that I was no lightweight. The downside is that like you I can be a bit too serious at times and I have to remember to lighten up sometimes.

I think realising that I do have that inner strength and core confidence has given me the ability to distance myself from my sister. Yes she has hurt me......more than words can say. However I have not let it defeat me. I have been able to distance myself and I can truly say that the rift will not impact on my life in the long term. I simply won't allow it to ruin my life.

Indie......Sorry to hear about your walking friend. Yes I agree sometimes people we see only occasionally can be more than mere acquaintances. I guess what counts is the quality of time we spend with them not the quantity.

Well my post last night was a bit brief because I was feeling so rough myself.

I am so sorry to hear about your daughter, Sugarbaby. What a shock for you, of course you are worried. As you say she is in the right place. Hopefully they will get the pain meds sorted today.

SUkey - so sorry to hear about your little Kittie. Our furry friends are family,of course we miss them. My sons little cat is such a character, he sleeps on my bed most nights. He always senses if I'm a bit low and he gives me lots of cuddles to cheer me up.

Well I had a good sleep, 8 hours - :j. I still have a sore throat but I do feel much better.

At the moment I have a number of minor niggles, physically low and prey to minor infections, currently sore throat, eye infection, thrush :eek:, a sore finger nail (no infection, just a nail trauma) and still some fibromyalgia pain, so I definitely need some serious self love and TLC, but hopefully sleeping better will help.

I think that undoing 10 years of stress and trauma is going to take a little while. Patience is not my strong point but hopefully the forthcoming summer will help me get fitter and stronger.

I'm a bit nervous about starting the gym this week but I'll take it gently to begin with. I'm going to give it my best shot.

sukeyboo

Thanks for all your kind words about the loss of my gorgeous little cat - they are much appreciated. He was such a wonderful little character and, as we don't have any children he was our 'fur baby' ❤.

Sounds like you have really been through the mill lately LL - take your time and build up your strength - hope you enjoy your gym session.

Hope your daughter feels better soon sugar - it must have been a real shock for you.

Sorry to hear about your friend indie - mid-fifties is no age

Take care all - lets all hope for a better week ahead.

lessonlearned

Hello lovely ladies. How are we all.

Well I'm all set for my induction at the gym tomorrow. Feeling a bit nervous TBH. I have my physios approval - with strict caveats to take things slowly. Absolutely no running.........and not to let the trainer push me too hard.

I have had a little spend on gym wear, trainers, sports bras, water bottle etc. I feel like a child again, going off to big school - all in my new kit. :rotfl:

I'll keep you posted.