Putting up with a suck up at work

ETTDDan

Hi all

Anyone got any advice for dealing with a suck up / brown noser at work? This guy I work with really depletes my patience to the point it's non existant. I've worked at my job longer and harder than he has and he suddenly gets promoted because the boss at the time who I'm sure hated me, loved his 'yes man' attitude.

I get on with everyone I work with, including my boss (who sadly is leaving to get a better job at Subway) and assistant manager. I don't get on with this guy, we'll call Mr X.

He seems to be a snivelling type and he's not my boss. He's a sales team leader. Whoever we get as a new boss, I have a feeling Mr X is going to start saying things about me to him in an attempt to make himself look evermore like the golden boy.

Blackbeard_of_Perranporth

Update the cv.

Post on line.

Bogalot

Agreed, you need to get your cv and start looking for another job. You're not going to be at this one for much longer.

daytona0

I've worked in places which had that sort of pettiness...

One thing I realised is that a brown nose is not unlike me; we both have our own philosophy (mine is to work hard and be competent and reliable) which we follow and we are both looking to progress within the company.

It is much better to WORK WITH such people than it is to constantly resent them because they've come in and rocked your boat.

Make no mistake that I tell you this despite the fact that other people gained promotions over me time and time again; yes men, brown nosers, horrible people. Sadly they just played the game better than me....

But when I eventually got promoted to a managerial position, I suddenly noticed all of the pettiness from people like you. People who gazed at me thinking that I didn't deserve it, or that they could suddenly undermine me at every opportunity. Or that what I told them didn't matter because "he's not my boss" (though I'm not sure if you are a subordinate in any sense).

Sometimes it is your very own resentment towards other people which is actually holding YOU back

ETTDDan

I appreciate what you're saying, but to me, brown-nosing isn't my thing and it also strikes me as a weakness.

'Hello boss, I'm going to butter you up nice and smooth to get what I want, taking your attention away from the hard worker over in the corner there'.

That's how it sits with me. Our observations and opinions may be different but thats just how it is at the end of the day I guess. Thanks for your comment.

xapprenticex

Learn to play the game.

I CAN be a suck-up myself with a particular manager (not my direct manager) but that's because I fancy her tbh, funny thing is my manager thinks she fancies me... I wish.. I digress..

But yeah, play the game better, learn to work with him or move on.

missbiggles1

Bogalot wrote: »

Agreed, you need to get your cv and start looking for another job. You're not going to be at this one for much longer.

Not very successful at the moment.

"Recently had applied for the likes of W H Smiths, ASDA, Tesco Mobile, Tesco, Argos, Sainsbury's, Apple, Stormfront etc, but they keep turning me away, despite having a CV that shows I work hard."

ETTDDan

I don't see why work should be that way though. Whatever happened to clocking in, working hard, getting the hard work recognised and then progressed that way? Have we as a society become so lazy now that we just go into auto pilot and hope that becoming friends with the boss is the way to climb the ladder now? If that is the case, then I'm stuffed.

If I was a boss and had someone trying to evidently butter me up, I'd tell them to take it down a peg or two.

DigForVictory

In the perfect world, the new boss admires yours stats over X's.

In the other place, we're all human - & you may find your boss is someone you like & get along with, who finds X a smarmy creep. Or you may need to find a nicer boss.

ETTDDan

Its funny you mention that. The boss who hired me initially, everybody thought was a bully, but he knew that I wanted to get as many hours as I could, and so because I had shown my work ethic to be strong, he rewarded me with more and more hours, verging on full time. I was pulling in £850 a month. I thought he was a lovely guy. I didn't need to !!!! kiss him whatsoever. He pulled me over one day and said 'I like your ethic, I ask you to do something, you don't question it, you just do it and that's why I hired you. I wish others were like you. Great job.'

He even came in one day saying 'I'm sick of praising you!'.

Then time went on and he moved to another store and the manager I got then ended up overspending the budget, and my hours were cut. I decided to move to a different new store myself, having been the only one who would be most experienced in this new store, as the other members would be brand new to the company. This 3rd boss I would get, didn't have any people skills and told me at interview stage (despite my applying for full time 40 hours), that 20 hours is all he could give me. I plowed on as it was 2 hours better off than what I was. After hard work getting this new store up and running like clockwork, I was promised full time. Again, that never happened as the 3rd boss had given more hours to a new female employee. Turns out, she didn't want 30 hours, she wanted 20, so again my 3rd boss said we would swap the hours. Again, that never happened. I worked harder and harder, fixing mistakes what have you. Promises came and went, and over the time, my motivation disappeared.

Mr X came along, interviewed for 12 hours, given 40, wham bam, thank you mam, here we are now. Now I'm pulling barely £600 in. Not enough to live on. I can't afford to live on my own, or buy a car, let alone insure it.

Bogalot

ETTDDan wrote: »

I don't see why work should be that way though. Whatever happened to clocking in, working hard, getting the hard work recognised and then progressed that way? Have we as a society become so lazy now that we just go into auto pilot and hope that becoming friends with the boss is the way to climb the ladder now? If that is the case, then I'm stuffed.

If I was a boss and had someone trying to evidently butter me up, I'd tell them to take it down a peg or two.

You refuse to do something your manager asks you to, then you moan about hard work not being recognised. Can you see how the two are contradictory?

I think you're jealous of this chap.