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AnotherJoe

Sorry for your mothers circumstances but its not complicated at all, its pretty standard, the people your mother is buying a house from are being tardy and may indeed end up not moving at all, maybe their purchase will just fall through and they will give up moving. A third of all sales fall through, your mother was unfortunately very naive to act as if it was a certainty hers would not. Getting caught up in the minutea of her vendors onward purchase is understandable but utterly utterly irrelevant.

Your mother can pretty much give up the idea of moving by Christmas (why oh why do people set this up as an expectation?), she could try giving an ultimatum to the people she is buying from that they exchange this coming week and complete by Dec 15 otherwise she pulls out, and they move into (rental /wherever / not her problem) if their purchase doesn't work out.

If they dont accept the ultimatum that tells you how solid the Dec 15th date is. They wont accept. But if they do, goodness all round.

Forget the relatives coming to visit, they can stay in a nearby B&B or hotel, and father can perhaps be moved back home or you'll have to find some way to finance the cost until the house is sold (presumably mother is downsizing?).

In the meantime your mum should start looking for another property this one looks like its not going to happen.

p.s. and of course your dad can come home. He can come home tomorrow. Settle the bill later. They cant imprison him !!!!

Mojisola

JustineMann wrote: »

But if this wasn't all stressful enough, my dad's terminally ill and lives in a hospital bed.

My mum arranged for him to be in a nursing home where he's cared for 24/7 so he could be comfortable while she moved house and had the new house ready for him to come home to.

He has been in the home since mid-October at the extortionate price of 700 pounds per week! With the understanding that we would have moved house by the 21st, this was not going to be a problem. However, the delays have meant he's been in there for several weeks and the bill is huge! Obviously, my mum planned to pay the bill with the money from the house move and until the bill is paid, he won't be able to come home!

If the only money they have is tied up in the house, why is your Dad self-funding? His care should be paid for by the local authority.

xylophone

If the only money they have is tied up in the house, why is your Dad self-funding? His care should be paid for by the local authority.

He does not actually need to be in a nursing home? It appears that Father is very ill but was not in hospital - he was living at home, presumably being seen as required by his doctor/ nurse etc?

The OP's mother is paying for "respite care" while she prepares to move house?

Presumably the view was taken by the NHS that he didn't need to be in hospital/a nursing home?

saajan_12

First off I would get your Dad home. They can't hold him prisoner and it doesn't even make sense for them to let the bill balloon when Mum may never have the means to pay. This way he's home for Christmas so the deadline is gone and you stop the bleeding money-wise.

Second, there's little you can do to move along the purchase.. the delay with is further along the chain and if the tenants don't want to move, the process can take several months. As i see it, you have 3 options:
1) Wait and ride out the purchase.. it may take several months or even stop completely if someone in the chain pulls out.

2) Offer a financial incentive to the couple (to move into rented accomodation while they figure out the bungalow) or to the bungalow tenants to move out early. Given the delays, its unlikely the parties will do either without something in return as they don't legally have to. May work, may not..

3) Look for other houses, which will go through the same process and likely complete in several months (but you can avoid ones with chain issues)

Don't waste time worrying about things you have no control over, like Ombudsman (no one in the chain has a binding agreement yet so noone's done anything wrong. The tenants appear to be exercising their rights). Relatives will have to make other arrangements, as you can't magic up space for them.

Hoploz

Bring dad home and forget about it all. If the purchase ends up going through then fine, otherwise why put yourselves through this stress at such a difficult time?