Partner Wants Me Out of Our Joint Home / Tennacy

edmond

As per the title of the thread, my partner and I have just taken out a 1 year joint tenancy on a new home, however the relationship has broken down and now she wants me out of the house, I understand as its a joint tenancy she cannot do this to me. However today I have been informed that she has been seeking legal advice, one piece of advise she was given was to report any verbal mental or physical abuse to the police. We had an argument yesterday which she has now reported and been issued with a incident number. She also informs me that tonight the police will be coming to the house to make sure the house is safe for her and my 2 year old daughter which I am astounded at. I may not have been the perfect partner but I am a good dad for my daughter as well as my two other children from my previous marriage.
Can anyone advise what my options are and what I should ?

AdrianC

You can continue living there with her, or you can move out.

I know which I think is more likely to give the kids a peaceful home environment.

david1951

Is she the mother of the daughter living with you? Do the other children live in the house?

When it comes to arguments with your partner, you need to be very calm and especially careful around your daughter. Try not to even raise your voice. Be the bigger man...

Same goes for the police. They will have seen this before but they have a duty of care as well. You need to reassure them that you will not be a problem.

All in all, if she is the mother of the daughter then you will likely end up moving out. Best to do this sooner rather than later.

edmond

Thanks for the replies. The woman in question is the mother of my daughter, my other 2 children life with there mother. I realise I will have to move out, and although I want to move out, at this moment I don't not have the finances to do so. So it puts me in quite a position.

elsien

The police have to follow it up. It doesn't mean they'll do anything about it. But while you're there, you have to make sure that you don't give her any ammunition.

What is her suggestion with regards to the tenancy and the rent? Can she afford to take it over on her own, and have you checked where you stand legally with regards to the tenancy if you leave?

edmond

I understand the police have to follow it up, they wouldn't be doing their job if there didn't.


At the moment I feel she's looking for as much ammunition as she can find. She's a lawyer so I feel everyday she's building a case against me.

At the moment she has made no suggestion towards the tenancy we pay half towards everything, the only way I would consider moving out quickly is if she took over the tenancy in her own name, however I am not sure if she can afford to do this.


I have not checked where I stand legally if I leave, I would assume I would still be accountable for half the rent.

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edmond wrote: »

I have not checked where I stand legally if I leave, I would assume I would still be accountable for half the rent.

So DON'T move out, and do the same - report any 'provocations' to the police. If she's playing dirty, she deserves the same.

csgohan4

Record everything, everything assume will be used against you

silvercar

edmond wrote: »

I understand the police have to follow it up, they wouldn't be doing their job if there didn't.


At the moment I feel she's looking for as much ammunition as she can find. She's a lawyer so I feel everyday she's building a case against me.

At the moment she has made no suggestion towards the tenancy we pay half towards everything, the only way I would consider moving out quickly is if she took over the tenancy in her own name, however I am not sure if she can afford to do this.


I have not checked where I stand legally if I leave, I would assume I would still be accountable for half the rent.

If you moved out, she could claim maintenance from you for your child. With her salary and maintenance she could possibly be able to afford the rental.

Legally you would both be accountable for all the rent. You could try getting landlord agreement for her taking on the tenancy.

lewishardwick

Sound like you're about to be bled dry for every penny she can claw out of you.

Until you can find alternative accommodation ensure you have your wages paid into a personal account. Keep all private documents safe and out of her reach (birth cert, passport etc).

Keep your mouth shut but be civil when you have to discuss your daughter. There's a high chance she will use her as a weapon against you....

Good luck!

Mgman1965

I would move out ASAP as it sounds like as the other poster said she is out to get you and is not adverse to using a few dirty tricks to get her way.

As others have said, in the meantime, don't give her any ammunition to use against you, but don't assume if you don't, she won't make it up (if she tells the police you raised your hand to her and/or threatened her, with it being your word against hers, they will believe her, wrong, but a sad fact of life).

In such situations, the man is always at a grave disadvantage and can rarely get justice and is not unknown for scorned ex-partners to make false claims of either mental or physical abuse to both them and children to the police and family courts who will always side with the mother.

At least if your not there alone she can't so easily stitch you up, and being in the legal profession, knows the best ways to get her way, moral or not.