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missapril75

ohreally wrote: »

Why did you become involved with this especially if he has nothing to do with you?

Nothing to do with her? Apart from being the father of her kids? (assuming it's all true of course)

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I think all you can do is present the truth. Show evidence if you have it that you don't get on, don't have an ongoing relationship other than both being parents of children.

But you can only do this if you really don't have an ongoing relationship.

I have a similar situation, my ex lives on a boat.., unofficially (no paperwork, no postal address) and I worry terribly when he comes round here, dog and all. There's not been a 'relationship' for three years, but I'm sure benefits could make a case of it if they chose to. I hate having to make a fuss about how long he visits for every time he comes round. Fortunately for me, there are a few professionals involved with the family that are familiar with the situation so I could probably bring them in if anything happened.

Maybe you could do the same? Have you spoken to anyone (medical/social work) about the situation? Does he have anyone professional helping him?

Keep your cool when being interviewed, they can sometimes say there is more proof than there is. I suspect they would need more proof before doing anything. If you cancelled your current benefit claim and tied yours to his, chaos would ensue (been there). Don't do that.

micky2phones

Placitasgirl wrote: »

An alcoholic with a car, a car which presumably isn't kept at the address at which it is insured. And an alcoholic who does work "for family" to pay for his car..... and presumably declares the cash in hand he receives for this work as he doesn't have a bank account.

Invalid insurance, children being carried in a car by an alcoholic and fiddling HMRC by not declaring earnings by the look of things. Reckon this is a deep pool with lots of fish in it. Hopefully DWP/HMRC will dig deeper and get to the bottom of this one and take all appropriate actions.

Hi, Mine line of thinking too, its not just about the claiming of benefits but the safely of the children, other road users and people walking/crossing the roads etc

Kim_kim

JaneD1980 wrote: »

I split up with him over 4 yrs ago just before my 2nd son was born and started to claim income support.
Last year we went away for the night for my sons bday, ended up stupidly having a one night stand and getting pregnant.
He is unreliable and hasn't worked, just bums about all over the place sleeping at mates and family members houses.
Lately he has been round about 3 times a wk after sch to see kids and some Sundays.
I know this isn't an ideal situation and I don't like claiming benefits so don't need any insults about it I just need advice.
He hasn't got a fixed abode so can't prove he's not living here. Also his car is registered to this address as he's got no address to put down.
I'm scared stiff I'm going to get into trouble cos I can't prove where hes living.
All I want to know is if I change my circumstances at the meeting the lady said it would start a fresh claim and the case would be closed but I'm scared she's lying to get me to do this x

I'm guessing you paid for the holiday?
I can't understand why you would pay to take him away on a family break with you???

Why are you so concerned that he keep his car on the road? If it were my children I'd rather an alcoholic wasn't taking them out.

ohreally

missapril75 wrote: »

Nothing to do with her?

That was history, they split and went their own way apart from visits.