Full time father/CSA advice
MaxD1976
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Hi Folks,
OK. Here is the problem to start with...
I have been full time carer of my now 11yr old daughter since she was 2 and 1/2, moved from Leeds (where she was born and raised initially) in 2010 when my daughter was 5. Her mum has NEVER given me a single penny towards the maintenance of our daughter despite seeing her usually every holiday for a few days...
Now, despite living with a new partner, I think the way our breakup happened and her attitude and manner towards being a 'mum' has stunk for years and now I think she needs to start contributing to our daughters costs.
yes, she 'occasionally' buys her clothes when she goes to Leeds for a visit but that is even few and far between while I pay for everything: food, clothes, school trips, toys, bedding, everything basically.
We have no 'custordy' arrangement as she was the one to tell me to just go back to London and take my daughter with me as she didn't want the responsibility of being a mother even though I was already a stay-at-home dad from when our daughter was 2.5 till she was 5yrs old.
In the interests of keeping the peace, I swallowed her 'no' answers to each time I asked for some money but her attitude has become even worse and to be hoenst, I think Ive let her get away with it for too long,.
So now I think she needs to start paying me and am even tempted to ask CSA to back date payments for me but need some advice from those who have been in a similar position and to also ask how best to approach this road to go down. Any advice welcome! If you need further background info please just ask and I will happily tell.
Cheers,
Max
OK. Here is the problem to start with...
I have been full time carer of my now 11yr old daughter since she was 2 and 1/2, moved from Leeds (where she was born and raised initially) in 2010 when my daughter was 5. Her mum has NEVER given me a single penny towards the maintenance of our daughter despite seeing her usually every holiday for a few days...
Now, despite living with a new partner, I think the way our breakup happened and her attitude and manner towards being a 'mum' has stunk for years and now I think she needs to start contributing to our daughters costs.
yes, she 'occasionally' buys her clothes when she goes to Leeds for a visit but that is even few and far between while I pay for everything: food, clothes, school trips, toys, bedding, everything basically.
We have no 'custordy' arrangement as she was the one to tell me to just go back to London and take my daughter with me as she didn't want the responsibility of being a mother even though I was already a stay-at-home dad from when our daughter was 2.5 till she was 5yrs old.
In the interests of keeping the peace, I swallowed her 'no' answers to each time I asked for some money but her attitude has become even worse and to be hoenst, I think Ive let her get away with it for too long,.
So now I think she needs to start paying me and am even tempted to ask CSA to back date payments for me but need some advice from those who have been in a similar position and to also ask how best to approach this road to go down. Any advice welcome! If you need further background info please just ask and I will happily tell.
Cheers,
Max
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Does she work?0
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CSA / CMOS can't normally backdate any payments to before your original application, so while there is no resaon you should not claim maintenace, it will only be for the future, not backdated.
I's suggest that you start with a letter to her linking to the CMOS calcualtor and asking her to let you have confirmation of her income with a view to the two of you agreeing on a reasonable level of maintenace, then if she ignores that, make the application.
I assume that you recieve any child benefit, tax credits etc?
You don't ned a Residence Order to be ablto make a claim.All posts are my personal opinion, not formal advice Always get proper, professional advice (particularly about anything legal!)0 -
Hi thanks for your reply!
I only get child benefit. The tax office deemed me intelligible to claim for child tax credits or working tax credits....
Is this wrong? Should I be automatically be getting at least the child tax credits??0 -
Should I be automatically be getting at least the child tax credits??
Child tax credits would apply if your household income is under £26k
WTC would apply if household income under £18k for a couple, £13k if single (was not sure from your post if it was you or ex that was living with another partner)
CSA (now called CMS) will not backdate so the claim will start from now and what is past is gone0 -
It's me that is with a new partner and living with her. My annual income is just over 30k so that would explain that I guess...0
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You need to start putting something in writing, and asking her for payments, stating that if she is not forthcoming, you will go via the CSA.
Does she actually earn anything though? If not, don't bother!
You will not be entitled to any benefits other than child benefit if you earn £30k, and your partner no doubt earns some money too...?Should've = Should HAVE (not 'of')
Would've = Would HAVE (not 'of')
No, I am not perfect, but yes I do judge people on their use of basic English language. If you didn't know the above, then learn it! (If English is your second language, then you are forgiven!)0
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