Final stage of separation.

Legacy_user

Apparently, when a married couple separate whether it me amicably or otherwise, there comes a time towards the final stage, even though they each are satisfied with how things stand, when the thought goes through the minds of each I suppose, "can they come back and ask for more?".

At what stage are they able to relax and say, no they can't.

PS, because I am asking on behalf of someone else, it may be that I have forgotten something or need to ask them a question again.

[Deleted User]

Decree absolute I hope...

Alter_ego

Separate or Divorce? Children involved?

Sambella

A Court approved financial settlement should end things.

Tigsteroonie

Sambella wrote: »

A Court approved financial settlement should end things.

Yes, once a Consent Order has been signed by both parties, it is very difficult to return to court for a reconsideration. (Difficult but not unheard-of if hidden finances come to light.)

jackieblack

Sambella wrote: »

A Court approved financial settlement should end things.

Getting the financial agreement approved and sealed by the court is the crucial point. This then becomes binding once the decree absolute is issued (if it hasn't already been).

System

Sorry, I forgot to state they are married and awaiting decree absolute. He appreciates feed back. Is it worth the £500/£600 to get the solicitor thing ? And yes, there are two children.

Tigsteroonie

islandman wrote: »

Sorry, I forgot to state they are married and awaiting decree absolute. He appreciates feed back. Is it worth the £500/£600 to get the solicitor thing ? And yes, there are two children.

Oh yes.

Definitely go through the formal financial proceedings to get that clean break order, but only one side needs a solicitor to draw up the final Consent Order document, you can split costs (the other side should get advice but doesn't have to engage a solicitor for full representation throughout).

jackieblack

islandman wrote: »

Sorry, I forgot to state they are married and awaiting decree absolute. He appreciates feed back. Is it worth the £500/£600 to get the solicitor thing ? And yes, there are two children.

My solicitor drafted our Consent Order on a 'fixed fee' basis, as we (ex-husband and I) had already agreed everything between us.

He (ex) got the required legal advice for a nominal fee. (We both knew he would be advised that he was 'entitled' to more, but he was happy with our agreement and happily exercised his right to ignore the advice, however the judge specifically asked for confirmation that legal advice had been received.)

OldMotherTucker

islandman wrote: »

Sorry, I forgot to state they are married and awaiting decree absolute. He appreciates feed back. Is it worth the £500/£600 to get the solicitor thing ? And yes, there are two children.

Morally you'd expect both partners to be willing to accommodate the changing needs of their shared children until they can stand on their own . .

It's really early days yet! There's potentially 18 years of dependency still.

My ex racked up 30k of debt with the CSA immediately after our divorce yet now voluntarily contributes 5K pa to his child he's no longer legally responsible for. Go figure!!:rotfl: A lot changes over the course of a child's lifetime - sometimes they see their parents grow up!!