Feeling utterly lonely.

bookemdano

Ok so I'm almost 44 so surely I shouldn't feel or act like I do?
My ex walked out on me just over a year ago and I honestly don't know why.....she told me she was unhappy but never gave me a chance to find out why. Anyway fast forward to present day, I met this gorgeous, friendly woman on a dating site and we just seem to click. Only been dating a few weeks but over the last few days she has virtually stopped contact. I know I should just get over it but I'm really hurt, confused and I feel so lonely. 😞😞

Tipsntreats

She was fickle, so better off without her. Don't be lonely. I am sure I saw a dating site somewhere on this forum. You are not old.
Please list me all your good qualities. I bet there are many.
Tips x

System

Don't be sad. Your very good looking.

Her loss.

bookemdano

Tipsntreats wrote: »

She was fickle, so better off without her. Don't be lonely. I am sure I saw a dating site somewhere on this forum. You are not old.
Please list me all your good qualities. I bet there are many.
Tips x

Well I think I'm easy going, would help anyone out if I could, daft sense of humour.
The thing is I wear my heart on my sleeve and I expect people to treat me in the same way I treat them. I come home every night to an empty house apart from my cats. Just for a while I was happy that someone was interested in me. I just haven't the energy anymore.

Tipsntreats

You sound like a wonderful person. I am sure that you need to wait a little, as otherwise it will be on the rebound. You WILL be happy again.
I will post tomorrow as I have had far too much to drink, and may give drunken stupid advice.
Don't be sad, and sweet dreams.
Tips x

Mista_C

bookemdano wrote: »

Ok so I'm almost 44 so surely I shouldn't feel or act like I do?
My ex walked out on me just over a year ago and I honestly don't know why.....she told me she was unhappy but never gave me a chance to find out why.

She was unhappy. As much as it's frustrating not to know perhaps it's not yours to reason why? Perhaps she never really knew the reasons herself, she just was. It doesn't necessarily mean she was unhappy with you, maybe just life in general and she felt she needed to change aspects of her life to move beyond that.

I'd just take it at face value and move on. Easier said than done maybe but you could go insane trying to figure out all the reasons why by yourself.

Anyway fast forward to present day, I met this gorgeous, friendly woman on a dating site and we just seem to click. Only been dating a few weeks but over the last few days she has virtually stopped contact. I know I should just get over it but I'm really hurt, confused and I feel so lonely. 😞😞

Have you tried contacting her, even just to see if she's OK? There could be any number of reasons her contact has diminished but if you're still feeling raw from your previous relationship you could be assuming the worst.

Possibly get in touch with her but just remember, especially if feeling hurt, that you've got to respect any choices she makes and accept the way things play out.

Why should you just get over it anyway? You obviously felt there was a connection there and now you're wondering what happened. It sounds like it's come as a bit of shock and that takes a bit of time to process.

Whatever the outcome you just need to remember that you're you. If someone can't handle that then it's just not going to work.
The loneliness is not that you've just not met someone, you've just not met the right someone.

Missli

bookemdano wrote: »

Ok so I'm almost 44 so surely I shouldn't feel or act like I do?
My ex walked out on me just over a year ago and I honestly don't know why.....she told me she was unhappy but never gave me a chance to find out why. Anyway fast forward to present day, I met this gorgeous, friendly woman on a dating site and we just seem to click. Only been dating a few weeks but over the last few days she has virtually stopped contact. I know I should just get over it but I'm really hurt, confused and I feel so lonely. ����

Try to keep some of yourself back. Try doing something you enjoy rather than make someone the focus of all your attention. You need to feel happy and confident in yourself first before getting back to dating. Wearing your heart on your sleeve although admirable only leaves you open to being disappointed.

A few weeks isn't long, so try put it behind you. Try going out with friends. I hope you feel better in yourself soon.

Tipsntreats

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I knew I saw one. How are things today bookemdano?
Tips x

Nomoonatall

bookemdano wrote: »

Well I think I'm easy going, would help anyone out if I could, daft sense of humour.
The thing is I wear my heart on my sleeve and I expect people to treat me in the same way I treat them. I come home every night to an empty house apart from my cats. Just for a while I was happy that someone was interested in me. I just haven't the energy anymore.

At least you have the cats. I'm sure they show affection, particularly at feeding time. x

Murphybear

bookemdano wrote: »

Ok so I'm almost 44 so surely I shouldn't feel or act like I do?
My ex walked out on me just over a year ago and I honestly don't know why.....she told me she was unhappy but never gave me a chance to find out why. Anyway fast forward to present day, I met this gorgeous, friendly woman on a dating site and we just seem to click. Only been dating a few weeks but over the last few days she has virtually stopped contact. I know I should just get over it but I'm really hurt, confused and I feel so lonely. 😞😞

You are not old;)

My OH and I met through a singles group in London. I was 44 and he was 48. This year is our 20th anniversary. :A. Still engaged but not married, still fight like cat and dog but still happy. You will find someone

Missli

That's why I mentioned he needed to be content in himself as there seems to be issues. No point dating again unless he's emotionally better, as if he can't handle himself, he won't be able to cope with other people in his life.