Not sure what to do for the best

c.mc

Hello, hoping for a bit of advice because we are not coping too well at the moment.

Up until a month ago we had two six month old kittens, Brothers. One of our kittens died a month ago. The other is not coping well at all, even now, a month later.

They had never been apart since they were born, They did everything together, slept together, played with each other, chased each other around the house all the time. The whole reason we got two in the first place is so they would have each other to play with and as company for each other and now one of them is gone and our remaining boy is nothing like himself anymore.

He has gone from being a playful, happy kitten to one who constantly cries, he is still looking around the house for his brother, still will not settle at night on his own and if we leave him he just constantly meows and cries, scratches the door, he is fine if we are in the same room as him and will play and settle with us, but even if I go to the bathroom for 2 seconds he cries for me, he is only like this since we lost our other kitten. He is now a completely different cat.

Does it usually take this long for a kitten to get used to the loss of another?

We have been talking about maybe getting another kitten but we are scared that it will go wrong and our kitten will not take to another, we are thinking if we brought another kitten into his life then he would once again have a playmate and another kitten to sleep with and chase around, but we are also aware it might not work out like that and they may not get along. I don't want to stress him out any more than he has been.

Has anyone been in this type of situation before? would you reccomend us getting another kitten, or should we just concentrate on the one we have and try to give him the best life we can as an only cat?

Would you reccomend a male or a female? Same age as ours or would a kitten or older cat be better under the circumstances?

Thank You.

whitewing

Can you speak to whoever you got the kittens from in the first place to see if they have any ideas?

I don't really know abut cats, but I would want to get another kitten friend for the little fella.

teddysmum

If you go along to a good rescue, they will help you with information and introductions etc and offer to take back any animal that you adopt, if things don't turn out well.

catkins

Really sorry to hear about your kittens.

I haven't been in that situation but have had lots of cats over the years. Kittens are much quicker to accept a new cat, of any age, in my experience. Older cats often don't take kindly to another cat coming into their house.

I have a cat who is 19 and I got her 4 years ago with her sister. Obviously they had spent their lives together. Her sister died early last year and it took her months to get over it.

She would constantly go round the house crying and at night she was so distraught that I had to start letting her sleep in the bedroom. She was a bit better then.

In your situation I would probably get another kitten but I do think speaking to a cat rescue, who obviously have far more experience with cats, would be a good idea