no idea what to do for the best?

BrandNewDay

epz wrote: »

as someone who went to a pretty crappy local comp cause my folks are damn hippys, i am always amazed who low marks me and my mates got compaired to other schools.

now i freely admit im a lazy sod but ive mates who got also b's and c's but have gone on to do post doctoral phd's in real subjects, i know for a fact im smarter than several people who got a's and went to better schools.

given the situation pretty unlikely that house prices will rise even with inflation now that tv shows are jumping up and down on the falls, the btl yields are gone and if you rent you will probably pay less than your would in mortgage interest.

if it were me and my kid i would take the risk, say it costs you 5k its nothing compaired to the value you add to your childs education, but then i dont have any.

It's really never too late to learn punctuation.

kodokan

pinkshoes wrote: »

You're right, it really does depend on personal circumstances.

It constantly amazes me how many people don't see it that way, that they think that renting is only something that you do when young before you buy a house, rather than something that can be dipped in and out of during a lifetime as suits.

Isn't this a useful, amicable discussion (thanks to pinkshoes and Doozergirl particularly, and obviously excepting Brand New Day!) - hope it's helpful to someone reading, as it's a particular hobby horse of mine.

kodokan

angelfire

this is my second attempt at a reply as my first didn't seem to register? Anyway, thank you to everyone who's replied with excellent advice.

to answer I think it's Doozer Girl's question - my eldest attended one of the local primarys, which is a good school, she's now in Y9 at high school. This is another sticking point really as although the high schools in the other area are fantastic, i know she'd want to stay at her current one. plus at such a crucial stage in her education it may be detrimantal to move her. That said, she doesn't really have many friends, the girls she knows tend to leave her out, so i fresh start I feel would do her wonders, but she doesn't feel that way...

i've managed to chat a little with OH tonight about the whole issue but he's adamant he wants to stay put and with the house being in his name - do i reallly have much choice anyway?

Still, there's a nagging in the back of my mind - DD2 is 2and a half and will begin school in September 2009. as I say, she could go to the local one, which I'm sure she'd be fine at, but the other, apart fom being my old primary school, has received an outstanding ofsted report, which is no mean feat.

I realise that this is not the only thing that matters in a school, but it being my old school I can vouch for the setting on the whole...

I've had a scoot round on rightmove and only managed to find one property to let in the area and i'm not sure it would even come under the catchment of the school. There are properties around to buy but by no means would they be where we'd want to stay indefinately - they're all 'stepping stone' houses, although so is the one were' in, so we'd be swapping like for like really.

If only i had a crystal ball!!

kodokan

Hi !!!!!!

Sounds like this is a decision best deferred for a while - because of OH's current mindset, your mortgage deal expiry date, and your youngest's school start date (unless you are REALLY keen to transfer your eldest, in which case sometime this year would probably be best).

If it's any help, for various job relocation reasons my son's on his third school now - one school for Reception, one for Yrs 1 and 2, and now a third for Yr 3 onwards (so far...). Depends on the child, of course, but he's been remarkably resilient about it. He can't remember his first school, so that move hasn't traumatised him for life, and he really wasn't that bothered about moving again this summer despite being very happy and having lots of friends at his old school. At the moment, two weeks in, he's still a little hesitant in the playground in the morning and tends to hover around me, but I'm confident that within another week or so, he'll be dumping his bags on me and scampering off to squeeze in 1.5 minutes playtime with his mates before the bell goes!

Honestly, you've got a couple more years at before you have to commit to a school, and even then nothing is irrevocable (apart from having the children in the first place, of course!).

But then, I too am a hyper researcher/ planner, so I do understand...

kodokan

PS. Incidentally, some counties have catchment maps on their school admissions web pages, which may be useful to you.

angelfire

kodokan wrote: »

Hi !!!!!!

Sounds like this is a decision best deferred for a while - because of OH's current mindset, your mortgage deal expiry date, and your youngest's school start date (unless you are REALLY keen to transfer your eldest, in which case sometime this year would probably be best).

If it's any help, for various job relocation reasons my son's on his third school now - one school for Reception, one for Yrs 1 and 2, and now a third for Yr 3 onwards (so far...). Depends on the child, of course, but he's been remarkably resilient about it. He can't remember his first school, so that move hasn't traumatised him for life, and he really wasn't that bothered about moving again this summer despite being very happy and having lots of friends at his old school. At the moment, two weeks in, he's still a little hesitant in the playground in the morning and tends to hover around me, but I'm confident that within another week or so, he'll be dumping his bags on me and scampering off to squeeze in 1.5 minutes playtime with his mates before the bell goes!

Honestly, you've got a couple more years at before you have to commit to a school, and even then nothing is irrevocable (apart from having the children in the first place, of course!).

But then, I too am a hyper researcher/ planner, so I do understand...

kodokan

PS. Incidentally, some counties have catchment maps on their school admissions web pages, which may be useful to you.

Thankyou Kodokan!

I'm loving the label 'hyper researcher/planner'!:D That's me to a t!

CB1979_2

not being funny, the house is your OH's, your oldest girl is settled in school and is doing GCSEs soon, and you want to upsticks and move for your 2.5 year old??

i'm with your OH on this one, surely your grand master plan could wait another 2/3 years to at least let your daughter finish her GCSEs and by that time your other kid will be 4 or 5 to start at a better school??

gemma.zhang

My collegue is in exactly the same situation as you. They have sold and current just moved to a rented flat, living in a good location, for his daughter's education, he's renting, at the same time, taking his time, look out for good property/dream home comes up on the market.

I don't have a kid personally, however, sure that I will have done the same thing if I were him. Education is important, more important at an early age.

Good luck with your decision.

angelfire

CB1979 wrote: »

not being funny, the house is your OH's, your oldest girl is settled in school and is doing GCSEs soon, and you want to upsticks and move for your 2.5 year old??

i'm with your OH on this one, surely your grand master plan could wait another 2/3 years to at least let your daughter finish her GCSEs and by that time your other kid will be 4 or 5 to start at a better school??

I don't just want to up sticks and move for my 2.5 year old, it would be for everyone, my eldest included - OH has agreed with this, his issue is with selling to rent/buying a property in the current climate.

As for my eldest daughter, she wouldn't have to move schools, she could still attend the school she's at, continue at the same sports clubs she goes to etc.