HB question

NeilCr

I guess you will have done this but what about local housing charities/support groups

Where I live CAB has a list of these who may well be able to help

flightboy

xylophone wrote: »

if your brother does have Asperger's Syndrome then persuading him to "see sense" as one might put it could be very difficult as "sense" from his viewpoint may be very different from that of the average person.

I say this from the experience of an old friend whose AS son is now close on forty - he was diagnosed as a child and lives in sheltered accommodation but when he visits his parents at holiday times can be very difficult to live with - his younger brother who still lives with the parents is particularly affected.

You cannot force your brother to help himself but it is worth trying to get him back to the doctor.

An AS diagnosis or a diagnosis of mental illness in some shape or form would make him a vulnerable person and he might then be in a position to call for more assistance from the LA?

He might also be entitled to claim ESA?

But little can be done until your brother co-operates.

Hi thanks for the reply. Thats a very similar position to what we are in...doctors know he has issues, we know he does and i guess he does BUT of course his outlook is he knows best and thats it so its almost impossible to talk to him and convince him of anything else. He spends 12-15 hours a day building a iphone app that hes been working about 6 months and literally unless you are talking to him about that he just dosnt listen or grasp whatever you say

We have tried to get him to go into the local charity that said he would help him but as soon as he met the guy in charge he felt they were out to get him and never went back

Ill keep working on getting him in somewhere first then worry about the next thing

dippy3103

O/P - i can't add to what's been said but I wanted to say that I think what you are doing is great. Many people would leave him to sink.
I hope it all works out x

xylophone

BUT of course his outlook is he knows best and thats it so its almost impossible to talk to him and convince him of anything

When my friend's son visits, he only wants to talk about his current (obsessive) interest, to surround himself with newspapers, have news programmes on television and radio to the exclusion of anything else.....

He also refuses to take his tablets if he doesn't feel like it, won't go to bed/change clothes/ bathe if absorbed in the news....

It does sound as if your brother's doctor is right to suspect AS.

xylophone

Just doing this to try and help my mother who at 57 and sick herself is being made worse by all the stress

I am not surprised by this.

Despite the fact that their son was diagnosed as a child, obtaining special education and then housing ( and rehousing when his behaviour has caused the provider to "evict") has been a traumatic experience for friend and spouse and has caused their younger son to experience stress and depression.

Both are now in their mid/late sixties and retired, so do not have to cope with the additional burdens of holding down a job - they both managed to do this but the effect on their health is and has always been quite visible.

flightboy

dippy3103 wrote: »

O/P - i can't add to what's been said but I wanted to say that I think what you are doing is great. Many people would leave him to sink.
I hope it all works out x

thankyou i havnt manged to help yet but i hope i will somehow

xylophone wrote: »

When my friend's son visits, he only wants to talk about his current (obsessive) interest, to surround himself with newspapers, have news programmes on television and radio to the exclusion of anything else.....

He also refuses to take his tablets if he doesn't feel like it, won't go to bed/change clothes/ bathe if absorbed in the news....

It does sound as if your brother's doctor is right to suspect AS.

Yes before the phone app he has obsessed over a snooker game, a tv show, eras in history...not once has it been something i at least like also! haha but he hates me for some reason so maybe he picks them knowing that i dont know

And yeh getting him to take a shower at least once a week is not easy at times

Going to ring and write to my council. the local charity i spoke to before and my MP see if i cant just hit the lotto and talk to that one person who might actually want/know how to help

thanks for all the replies gave me more notes to refer back to when i need them

xylophone

It seems to me that persuading him to see a doctor with a view to diagnosis would be the first step.