Last minute demand from buyer

moneyistooshorttomention

As you've agreed to share the electrical report with the buyer - then you are under an obligation to do so.

Daughters don't tend to have "control" over what their protective fathers are doing - sometimes we find out, after the event, what our fathers have done (ie when they can't resist telling us).

You have to treat them as two separate (though linked) people - who may well have different reactions to things and not take it out on the daughter that her father has been rather more "forthcoming" than she would have liked by the sound of it. Right now - she's probably pretty upset with Dad herself for nearly losing her house for her by accident (ie the EA probably misinterpreted what Dad was saying to him).

Have the report done/pay for it/take a photocopy of it for yourself and then give that report to the daughter as soon as you have it (provided Exchange has taken place). Don't do deliberate delays (you'll only upset Dad again and protective fathers sometimes find ways to "clock someone one" after the event that upsets their daughter - and then they tell the daughter after the event what they did in case she "stays their hand" and prevents them....).

csgohan4

They also cut their own noses to spite their faces as well

moneyistooshorttomention

csgohan4 wrote: »

They also cut their own noses to spite their faces as well

Some of them are quite clever enough not to do that...

The person concerned just finds they've mysteriously lost something "by accident" or not got a job or something they'd planned on. More sophisticated than "punching them one"...

Don't blame the daughter - they tend to get told after the event...as their father thinks they're too "soft".

csgohan4

moneyistooshorttomention wrote: »

Some of them are quite clever enough not to do that...

The person concerned just finds they've mysteriously lost something "by accident" or not got a job or something they'd planned on. More sophisticated than "punching them one"...

Don't blame the daughter - they tend to get told after the event...as their father thinks they're too "soft".

Or they know better on this occasion.


It's the daughter's money and life, some people still treat their children as children

moneyistooshorttomention

They mean it for the best.

Many parents take some while to realise that, actually, their adult children are really quite capable people.

Personally - I'm only glad that I'm not in a culture of "arranged marriages" - my own father expressed a wish we were at one point LOL.

csgohan4

moneyistooshorttomention wrote: »

They mean it for the best.

Many parents take some while to realise that, actually, their adult children are really quite capable people.

The best for themselves or their daughter's, that's the question. Especially so close to losing her house.


Father is not on the mortgage deeds, so therefore has no final say. He can have an opinion, but not to force out of sale.


While the buyer is a bit naïve perhaps in not having a full survey, most do have caveats anyways.

bouicca21

My inclination if you have agreed to share it would be to leave a photocopy for the buyer to find at completion. Keep the original partly just in case there is an attempt at comeback but also to emphasise that you paid for it and it's yours.

lichfield22

moneyistooshorttomention wrote: »

As you've agreed to share the electrical report with the buyer - then you are under an obligation to do so.

Daughters don't tend to have "control" over what their protective fathers are doing - sometimes we find out, after the event, what our fathers have done (ie when they can't resist telling us).

You have to treat them as two separate (though linked) people - who may well have different reactions to things and not take it out on the daughter that her father has been rather more "forthcoming" than she would have liked by the sound of it. Right now - she's probably pretty upset with Dad herself for nearly losing her house for her by accident (ie the EA probably misinterpreted what Dad was saying to him).

Have the report done/pay for it/take a photocopy of it for yourself and then give that report to the daughter as soon as you have it (provided Exchange has taken place). Don't do deliberate delays (you'll only upset Dad again and protective fathers sometimes find ways to "clock someone one" after the event that upsets their daughter - and then they tell the daughter after the event what they did in case she "stays their hand" and prevents them....).

I don't think the EA has misinterpreted anything - his exact words were 'the deal is off then and we'll find another house for my daughter to buy' and it had reached the point where her solicitor had phoned mine to say they were pulling out before the daughter rang up wanting it all reversed.

The father apparently doesn't want me knowing where he or his daughter currently live (I know she's on my street but there's more than 100 houses) so although he's insisted on the electrical report, he hasn't provided any instructions of how to share the findings - only an instruction that I was to call his chosen electrician by 5pm on Friday to arrange the check, and pay for it, or they'd fail to exchange.

iammumtoone

You say the father has organised the check direct? you are just paying for it?

In that case I would guess the father has arranged with the electrician how he will get the report.

I would make sure that you obtain a copy before handing over payment.

barbiedoll

He's a cheeky git...why should you use his "chosen" electrician? How do you know that he is a proper electrician and that he is going to be completely unbiased? For all you know, the father could have bunged him a few quid to invent all sorts of problems on the report.

All this "protective father" nonsense is rubbish, he's just a bully. He's bullying his daughter and now he's trying to bully you. I can't believe that his middle-aged daughter puts up with his antics, if my father (or mother, or anyone else come to that) had poked their nose into my house-buying affairs, they'd find themselves with a swift kick up the backside. As for punching anyone, they'd have been reported to the police. Do women really let their fathers treat them this way nowadays?

As for not letting you know where they live...he's a coward. Like all bullies. Lets hope he does try to get his daughter to pull out, I'd like to see his face when he realises that they're gonna have to pay out a shedload of cash for nothing. (Although I realise that's not an ideal situation for you of course! :o)