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A Right Royal Mess I've Got Myself Into
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Is becoming self-employed an option? At least that would avoid the problem of what to tell a new employer. Of course the downside is that building up any business takes time so it is not likely to solve your problems in the short term.
Not necessarily true, I know a someone who became SE and gets loads of money from the government to help her.
Might be worth enquiring0 -
I resigned from a job when I was a single parent, I told the benefits that I had to resign due to having no child care (hours, 5pm/11pm) they excepted this and I got paid staight away.
Also becoming a Christian means you have started a new life and all your sins have gone. I dont think you have to mention to your new employer about what happened in your last job, thats in the past.
GOOD LUCK and WELL DONE for owning up0 -
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soa - not much point as at the moment the ONLY income i have is £70 every 4 weeks child benefit.
Check out www.entitledto.com to see what you should be gettign
Also if you are not getting JSA, then you should be able to get hardship payments , which are 60-80 percent of the JSA amount.If you've have not made a mistake, you've made nothing0 -
update......
went for interview with agency placement company today. Told them little about what had happened (there were accounting errors for a project i was responsible for which was completely my fault and the company is subsequently out of pocket) but felt like crap when i came out for not being completely upfront but she did say, if it had been any worse, they wouldnt be able to represent me. Just waiting to find out what kind of reference employers want to provide for future employers.
Going round in circles, doesnt make sense to tell everyone everything but doesnt do my soul any good to not be completely honest.DFW 228 LONG H 68
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I'm pleased to see you've posted again, I appreciate it must be very difficult and frustrating not to be able to come clean, but you have to eat, you have a child to care for, and to do that & pay your bills you really need to find another job.
To come completely clean would probably mean no job, certainly not immediately. To say what you have said (which, lets face it, we all adapt the truth to suit the situation on occasions) is giving an idea that you may not get a full reference and why, but not giving the full details.
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They won't mention the money situation in a reference. They can't say anything 'bad' about a person, the worst thing they could do is just send a blank piece of paper i.e - nothing good to say, which I'm sure they would never do. Is there someone there who wasn't a manager who could give you a character reference?
I'm not really sure the best way to word this, but you can only beat yourself up for so long about something. You have done what you felt is right and have taken the consequences. That (to me) is your 'punishment' - ie admitting it and having your resignation accepted which gives you your current situation. You shouldn't have to feel that you now have to tell anyone at an agency the exact details why you resigned. Hope that makes sense.
I agree with Floss. A priest or vicar will be able to help you with the turmoil of the moral issues you are trying to live with. Your moral responsibility now lies with providing for you and your family and you need to find 'peace' in your mind and start to re-build your future work wise."Stay Wonky":D
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i just wanted to make sure that you knew about Black Horse.... I too have a loan with them... is your secured? if it is then they only accept reduced payments for 4 months after that if you are showing as in arrears (ie make a reduced payment for another month) then they can start proceedings to repossess
they didnt tell me this when i first rang them about my difficulty to pay, in fact they sent me a payment book to make future payments. i only found out 2 more months down the line0 -
if you are a female ( which I presume you are ) you can always say at an interview that you have been a stay at home mom and are looking to return to work ! you could always use that to explain a gap in employment history or say that you were at college etc I know its probably against your religous
beliefs but needs must, well done for coming aboard and getting your life back on track, saying you were at home with your child is not really a lie as Im sure you are with them at some stage during the day /night.lovexxxxxxxx0 -
Hi, just wanted to reiterate that you have been brave and done something that so many other people would probably never have the guts to do - in both circumstances that is. However, deep breath and big step forward time now.
One of my bf's friends did sort of the same thing, and at first he told agencies why he had left, result no-one wanted him on their books. He managed to get a temping job for 3 weeks and then when he went for a full time job he just said to the new employer that he didn't want to do temping anymore so was looking for full time work. He was being honest in that.
When they enquired about his old full time job he said that he felt time for a change and wanted to temp for a bit to see what the market was like, but then decided that he would prefer a stable full time job. Ok, not totally honest with all the facts but totally honest with why he didn't want to temp anymore. He managed to find a full time job and two years down the track has learned his lesson [I hope!!] and has moved forward.
You shouldn't shout it from the rooftops and you also shouldn't completely lie of course, but you should carefully choose your words.
You know you'll never do it again. Give yourself a wee break.
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Hi There, well done for your honesty, not many people would have been able to admit what they had done to employers.
How old is your child, I may have missed their age and if so I apologise. The Benefits agency will not leave you penniless, and the fact that you have left your job will affect what benefits you recieve, but will not stop you getting any at all. You need to go contact your local office or find a national number through the jobcntreplus website, and get some real advice here.
I am sure as a Christian you feel morally obliged to tell prospective employers about the circumstances, but I think that you need to be as economical with the truth as you can to enable you to get back to work. You loyalties must be to your daughter and yourself first! ***HUGS***0
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