Claiming Money From a Former Friend

Blackbeard_of_Perranporth

I would just call the locksmith and and be done with it!

kazzah

presumably the money has already been spent by you ?

personally I would write it off - many years ago I loaned a lifelong friend £30 ( a weeks wages then) she paid me back by cheque which bounced.

I never asked her for it- never mentioned it- she wouldn't have asked me if she hadn't needed it desperately and as her cheque bounced I assumed she was not in a position to repay it.

she became very embarrassed and slowly started to draw away from contact.
I was very very sad - we had been friends since primary school and i am so sad that she was so embarrassed she ended our friendship over it.

if you TRULY want to keep this person as a friend - give up - the money has been spent - if they had it they would give it you so that you wouldn't tell anyone about it. Then NEVER go "halves" or lend them money again.

If the money is more important - do the letter before action and then go to court - it depends what your priorities are.

DCFC79

Re your friend driving your car, I'd never give a friend permission to drive my car, if they want to go somewhere they can either pay me petrol money or get 1 of the public transport options.

You were a too good a friend for them.

Valli

Without proof of the debts or proof that your friend intended to pay you have little chance of success.

bargainbetty

Get in touch privately with your friend, and ask her to agree a repayment plan, starting immediately, because you genuinely need the money back. Explain to her that it is causing you hardship to not have those funds at this time, because you relied on her to repay you as agreed.


Don't say more than that, don't get accusatory or rude, just ask her for what she agreed to pay.


If she ignores you or refuses, then at least you know where you stand. Personally, I have always seen it as a lesson in who I can trust with what. I have one friend that I lend money too with almost shameful ease. I do this because she repays it. Sometimes it takes a year, but she remembers and repays every penny. I have another friend who ignores the debts she owes me, and claims to have no debt at all. I will never lend her another penny, and I think she knows why. Our friendship is still there, but it will never involve money again, ever.


As for the 'holding onto the friendship by money' thing - trust me, that wears thin. I have a third person, no longer a friend, who did exactly that - held out on repaying in the hope that I'd stay around and not walk away from his behaviour and attitude. Took me a while, and it was an expensive lesson, but if someone just sees you for what they can get rather than respecting your friendship enough to front up to the debt, that's someone you don't need to have in your life.

muddipaws

LadyDee wrote: »

£24 for cupcakes? £120 for a meal? Sorry OP, but if you are so hard up for £200 then I really think your expenditure needs a rethink.

To be honest, I'd just put it down to experience, keep a tighter rein on your spending, don't lend your car to anybody and make do with instant coffee.

She's not a friend.

My expenditure does not need a rethink, but my friends do