Struggling to agree on completion date

marksoton

Paulo123 wrote: »

Hi, We are FTB who are due to exchange over the next couple of days but we cant agree on a completion date. We want the 12th (friday) but the vendor wants 17th (wednesday).

As its the summer holidays we are struggling with childcare for the wednesday but friday my in laws don't work so could have the kids while we move. The whole process has been very slow (only 2 in the chain and we had offer accepted last december) The vendors wife died which is why the house is for sale and he is going into an unoccupied over 55's flat. EA is saying he needs more time to pack and its stressful for him etc.

He has had months to pack, he knew the move was happening and I think they are playing the emotional card to pander to his requests. Everything has been done at his pace the whole way through and we have been very patient.

Shall I be forceful that we need to be in on the 12th or just let them get away with it again!!

He's lost his wife and now is selling the home they lived in. Have a bit of empathy hey?

Complete on his date and move in on the Friday. Simple.

ReadingTim

Paulo123 wrote: »

Hi, We are FTB who are due to exchange over the next couple of days but we cant agree on a completion date. We want the 12th (friday) but the vendor wants 17th (wednesday).

As its the summer holidays we are struggling with childcare for the wednesday but friday my in laws don't work so could have the kids while we move. The whole process has been very slow (only 2 in the chain and we had offer accepted last december) The vendors wife died which is why the house is for sale and he is going into an unoccupied over 55's flat. EA is saying he needs more time to pack and its stressful for him etc.

He has had months to pack, he knew the move was happening and I think they are playing the emotional card to pander to his requests. Everything has been done at his pace the whole way through and we have been very patient.

Shall I be forceful that we need to be in on the 12th or just let them get away with it again!!

And you've had months to consider the possibility that you might need to organise 1 day's extra childcare, so you're not entirely faultless here either. Furthermore, until completion it's his house. You want to buy it, you move at his pace, yet you seem to think you're doing him a favour by buying it. Suggest you get over yourself and come to an agreement, rather than try and win an argument; or pull out and find somewhere else.

Mickygg

I really don't see this as much of an issue. You've done all the stressful stuff getting to exchange! Options:

1) stand firm on your date, risk the while sale as owner may just think forget it at such an emotional time
2) arrange childcare and do the move on the Wednesday. What's a few extra ££ when you've spent thousands on a house.
3) complete Wednesday and move in on the Friday
4) try to agree on another agreeable date such as following Friday

As mentioned above I too was warned against completing on a Friday.

Hoploz

Lender will require vacant possession on completion though, remember

moneycantbuyyouhappiness

Clutterfree wrote: »

Also bear in mind he is an older gentleman and is leaving the marital home that he shared with his late wife. I should imagine it IS a very emotional time for him.

Thank you Clutterfree. The poor bloke is leaving a lifetime full of memories and is probably unearthing all of those whilst packing up his and his late wifes belongings.

I appreciate it's stressful for you but it won't be a patch on how heartbreaking it is for him.

What does a few days really matter?! As others have said complete on the Wednesday move in on the Friday.

arbrighton

Imagine your wife has died recently and you're a bit older and need to pack up your belongings from the home you shared.

Sucks right? Have some compassion.

And as others have said, suck it up. Playscheme or whatever for one day isn't going to cost the whole earth. Or move on friday? Presumably you haven't actually given notice wherever you are yet (and if so WHYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYY when you haven't yet exchanged?)