DNA Testing after Adoption?

Lillylou

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Guest101

Adoption doesn't stop this process, but given her age it's unlikely to require a DNA test unless he's suing you for slander.

megc_2

If your daughter was adopted by your husband, it ends all claim to her and severs any relationship between her and him. That's what adoption does legally. So legally, your husband is her only father, and any relationship she may have once had with the ex ended.

Also, re DNA tests- only your daughter can consent to this as she is an adult. So if he wants this, he needs to ask her. You cannot make this decision for her.

Sounds to me, that as your daughter is now an adult and able to make her own decisions about who she considers and wants a fatherly relationship with, your connection with him needs to end. He sounds quite unstable and changeable and you have no reason to continue communication with him now. So rather than continuing to bow to his demands and mind changes, let him go and block his phone numbers/ email address etc.

Lillylou

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Lillylou

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elsien

In that case, I hope he's got seriously deep pockets because he's going to need them. Otherwise he's all mouth and trousers - don't dignify it with any response. Why are you still communicating with him?

missbiggles1

megc wrote: »

If your daughter was adopted by your husband, it ends all claim to her and severs any relationship between her and him. That's what adoption does legally. So legally, your husband is her only father, and any relationship she may have once had with the ex ended.

Also, re DNA tests- only your daughter can consent to this as she is an adult. So if he wants this, he needs to ask her. You cannot make this decision for her.

Sounds to me, that as your daughter is now an adult and able to make her own decisions about who she considers and wants a fatherly relationship with, your connection with him needs to end. He sounds quite unstable and changeable and you have no reason to continue communication with him now. So rather than continuing to bow to his demands and mind changes, let him go and block his phone numbers/ email address etc.

Many adopted children have relationships with their birth parent(s) even if adopted by strangers - in fact nowadays it's considered good adoption practice to do so.

FBaby

The only way he could sue you for slander is indeed you knew for a fact that he wasn't the father but pretended he did. That means that 1/ you indeed lied, and 2/ that you knew for sure, which of course, couldn't be proven.

Whether he decides to approach your daughter or not is his choice and entitlement. She might want to be sure too, or she might tell him to take a hike as she doesn't care one boot. That's would be her choice. You are not involved in this issue any longer now that she is an adult, even if she is going through difficult times and as a mum, you want to protect her. Saying that, if she doesn't care about him and considers your husband as her dad, why would she be upset that her biological father was denying paternity? If anything, wouldn't it reinforce her relief that she was indeed adopted?

Nicki

The limitation period for bringing a slander claim is one year so he can't sue you for something you said 20 years ago irrespective of what that was.

To be honest if you haven't spoken for this long and he's got in touch out of the blue to say this I'd suspect he is suffering from some form of mental illness which is distorting his perceptions. In the unlikely event that he does contact your daughter direct, I'd use that line and reassure her there is no truth in his allegations and it is his psychosis talking.

Lillylou

Thank very much to all who contributed, it's been a great help.