THE Prepping thread - a new beginning :)

mardatha

Living_proof wrote: »

I start my day with full fat Greek yogurt with one teaspoon of turmeric, one tsp cinnamon, a good dozen grinds of black peppercorn, all mixed up with Omega sprinkle, flaxseeds and mixed autumn fruit. Now what could be nicer than that?

.......a CAKE

GreyQueen

I thought that was a pretty adventourous breakfast, myself. But I'd prefer cake.

Cheapskate

alibobsy, so sorry to hear you've lost your darling mum. :sad:

I lost my lovely mum suddenly last February, so know just what you're going through. I'm still reeling now, as are my siblings, and every 'first' without her is so terribly hard. I don't know if you ever 'get over' the loss of such important people, I still haven't got to grips with the loss of my dad 8 years ago. I still can't visit mum's grave alone - I go with DH or my sister.

monnagran said it perfectly, you aren't alone in this, and you do need to be a bit selfish and give in to that desire to hide under the quilt, if that's what you need. I didn't do that when dad died, and haven't really since mum went; I always feel I have to carry on and 'do' for other people; I regret not doing so, as I know it's contributing to my ill-health, so as we approach the first anniversary of mum's death I AM taking more time for me, and having weepy moments, saying no to things I don't need to do, and concentrating on DH and the littlies - everyone else is capable of caring for themselves, I'm not their keeper!

There isn't a time limit on how long you'll feel lost, we're all different, and the feeling comes and goes, you just have to roll with it - pushing it away isn't healthy, but that's only my own experience.

If you need to talk, we're all here to lend an ear, feel free to pm me if you like. Have a virtual hug and a huge cuppa and know you're not alone. :grouphug::coffee:

A xo

ALIBOBSY

Sorry Cheapskate, Queenbee and Karma cat for your losses and everyone else who commented. You are all describing stuff I am going through and it really helps to know I am not alone or going crazy.

Trying to be strong for other family members, but having some trouble with feeling like my mum and sister seem to be coping alot better than I am and can't believe my mum has already started get rid of his stuff.

But her and my sister seem to be being so strong just getting upset now and then during discussions about Dad and the arrangements, unlike them I seem to find myself crying for no reason at all and struggling to keep it together.

Was making tea before and suddenly started howling and wasn't even thinking about Dad. Horrid day of funeral arrangements, helping mum pick the cloths for Dad, even though we are having a closed casket was tough. Ended up asking for one of his old cardies to keep-my Dad always had those M and S zip up cardies all my life so just feels like him.

The one I picked up he had worn last time he was home and still smells like him, think after the kids bedtime when I put P.J's on later will stick it over the top and just snuggle up and let myself go.

Sat here crying again, just finding it hard to get through stuff at the moment. Mum and my Sister seem to be getting on with arrangements when I am just struggling to get out of bed. Couldn't sleep last night so when the puppy started whining at 4.45am got up and cuddled up on sofa with her.

I just hope once the funeral is over that I can start to get myself together.

Thank you for all the thoughts and comments.

Ali x

smeeth

Ali I've been there when I lost Mum 6 years ago, I know how raw it is right now but I can tell you it does get better, but you have to give it time.

If you feel like curling up and crying, then do it. Let the rest of the family entertain themselves for a while and just ask not to be disturbed. You will come through this in one piece.

Curling up with one of his cardigans is a lovely idea, I did the same, it's nice to have that familiar feel and smell, but don't worry yourself too much with your Mum deciding she's ready to get rid of some things.. everyone grieves in their own way. It might be that her way is to be busy and organise, she might not like the constant reminders everywhere she looks now that she's lost her husband.

This isn't something you can prep for, so look after yourself, do what you can and have faith in the fact that one day this will be a distant (although painful) memory obscured by the happy memories of when he was still here.

DigForVictory

This thundersnow all sounds fun but you can't beat an unexplained & unexpected powercut for testing things.
All the phones are down (*knew* we should have left a cabled one in place!), and while power should be back for the lads return from school, Himself is in a cooling silent house.
There is a windup radio & I'll tell him where to find it, but the wind up torch is in my pocket. (Ahem.)
He's well dressed for cold, and knows the freezer is sort of offlimits whereas the fridge is use-with-intelligence.
(Getting him to check on elderly neighbours is beyond me - he's a bashful soul.)
He's turned off the cooker & we don't have bar fires, grills etc but today we had plans about me going into work safely (all fine) but he's at home & lightly stuffed!

Thank god we don't keep tropical fish. (Unplug the filter, insulate tank with blanket & aerate by flapping your hand in the water. If you keep carnivorous fish, I presume aerate with caution?!)

When I get back, I'll check the central heating system clock - I can probably reset it with least swearing (whereas the lads will just set it going full blast & ignore the time aspect) then remind everyone to reset their alarm clocks...

mardatha

You need to work on alternative heating and cooking methods Dig.

thriftwizard

It's gone dark here and the birds are going to roost, at least an hour before they should. It's P'ing down and has been since mid-morning; I had cause to be out & about (first day I've felt up to driving since I went down with this cold, and we actually ran out of something - cat litter!) and needless to say, the drains are blocked and the roads are filling up with water... and people are still driving well above the limit, with no lights on. I actually got undertaken at speed at the traffic lights by some wally who didn't realise I was going slowly because the car in front was too... he hit the other side of the puddle broadside on, but just corrected & carried on! That's the trouble with driving a van; people can't see past you so they assume you're the problem...

mardatha

http://www.bbc.co.uk/news/uk-england-lincolnshire-38593857

thriftwizard

Essential information on how best to prepare for TEOTWAWKI:

The New Yorker...

Not one flake of snow here - I know those of you who have had it would probably rather you hadn't, but we got quite excited when they extended the weather warning as far as us! Bitterly cold now, though, with a keen Nor'wester blowing.